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Humor and Simplicity: What Guys Have Going for Them

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There is something wholly and totally alluring about a person that can make you laugh. Women are often drawn to men that, while on paper may seem completely ineligible, are irresistible because they are genuinely funny. It’s a trait much more valued in the 21st Century than back in the caveman days.
Instinctually females used to want someone of brute strength first, and intelligence second. But nowadays (perhaps because people are increasingly more in need of breaks from everyday stress) humor is extremely valuable. A guy that can make a gal laugh and feel more carefree is a potential long term, compatible mate.
Humor is just one of the big things guys can offer to make partners happy, Ironshrink writer Shawn T. Smith, Psy.D. explains in a recent article for Psychology Today, “What Women Love About Men.”  His findings are based on an online survey among men & women he conducted as part of the research for his new book, “The Woman’s Guide to How Men Think: Love, Commitment, and the Male Mind” (“What Men Love About Women” is his next post)
But tickling her funny bone isn’t the only thing attractive to the modern woman, Smith goes on to say after surveying several women’s responses. The fact that guys tend to sweat the details less, forgive quicker and forget conflicts faster, all pointing to less complicated emotions, is appealing to many ladies. 
So fellas, don’t worry so much about fancy presents or impressive résumés. You can go the extra mile by making her smile. (And members, make sure to add a touch of humor on your Coffee Meets Bagel profile!)

 

Halloween Costumes for the Singles

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By Jessica Barone, @chai_haiku

After high school, Halloween festivities tend to change pace. Less Trick-Or-Treating, more parties; you start looking forward to a different kind of candy, if you know what I mean.

For the young and single, Halloween parties are golden opportunities to meet people. Energy is high, drinks are flowing and you have the chance to stand out more than usual, if you choose the right costume. Now for some, Halloween is an excuse to dress up in black lingerie, put on a pair of cat ears, call yourself a kitty and no one can argue with you. All Hallow’s Eve really is a free-for-all for the sexually explicit. And if you’re looking for a one-night stand, that kind of costume is fine.

 But for those looking for second-date material, you might want to rethink your wardrobe. That isn’t to say cover up and dress like an unflattering, giant banana. If you have a favorite feature – shoulders, legs, eyes – pick a costume that will accentuate that with a tailored outfit idea or with the right makeup. Superhero costumes work great for this!

            

Accentuate the good, but don’t give away all the goods. Do you really want everything mysterious about you to evaporate before you even introduce yourself?

And men, it’s up to you: you can have the scariest, goriest costume at the party, but don’t be surprised if you can’t strike up a flirtatious conversation with anyone at the party. It’s hard for a gal (or guy) to think of romance when they’re fixating on the synthetic bloody stitches crocheted across your face.

The choice is yours – will you find love this All Hallow’s Eve?