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CMB Texting 101
Hello CMB members and FUTURE CMB members ;)
We text all the time- no biggie. However, when it comes to that first text you send to the Bagel you’re interested in, it becomes a different story where you pause and have to think for a bit.
You don’t want to come off as the boring one or be creepy and ask for drinks at 10:00pm. So how can you be friendly, approachable, and make a good first impression with your text? Here are some good and bad examples our team collected.
BAD
Hey. (Really? ..That’s a great conversation starter…really..)
Whaddup. (We’re grownups here. Let’s talk like one.)
Meet up for a drink? (This is fine after some actual talking, but this is comes off too abrupt. )
GOOD
Notre Dame! I was just in Indiana for work. How did you survive through the cold? ( Found a relevant topic to talk about- AWESOME!)
Your profile pic was so cute that I had to say hello. Can’t believe it’s almost spring again? Lets chat soon. (compliments the bagel in a sweet way and tries to get to know the person first)
Hello. I love to play golf as well even though it’s hard to do so in the city. Where are you from originally? (When you share the same hobby or interest it becomes a great conversation starter, and a potential date activity)
Hi I thought it would be great to meet up for coffee since we are both in Finance, but let’s talk about something else :) (Friendly and suggests that this meet up doesn’t have to entirely romantic. CMB can be a way to network as well.)
As you can see, mentioning your Bagel’s hobby and interest can be a easy way to start a conversation and you can have more fun with it. This is why it is so important to fill out your own profile and be descriptive of what you like to do and to tell the person a little more about yourself. Even your pictures. Don’t just put one picture, but maybe 2 or 3…or even 4 pictures of your face and yourself doing some interesting activity. These are all good conversation starters and gives a better sense of who you are to the other person. Wouldn’t you want to see such information on your Bagel’s profile rather than one picture and no other information?
There are many other ways to say ,”Hello” to your bagel. Hopefully these examples were helpful and inspired you to send a text that makes your bagel want to talk to you more.
Good luck fellow CMB members!
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St. Patrick's Day-southern style @ Southern Hospitality
If you’re too lazy to hit the St. Patrick’s Day parade and would rather feast on delicious southern yumminess here’s a place for you to go.
Also, we all know heavy drinking is bound to happen on St. Paddy’s Day so to prevent having a regretful morning on Sunday, we should ready our stomachs with some deliciousness.
Southern Hospitality has a special southern style menu for this coming Saturday.
Saturday, March 17, 2012 11am-6pm
Go out with your date, gather up a group of friends and have a finger licking feast. To make it better, top it all off with some irish car bombs, green jello shots and more festivities :)
We don’t recommend going to a bar at 11:00pm for the first date, but maybe a day date out to Brooklyn can be forgiven!
Check out One Stop Beer Shop in Brooklyn to shop and to have some beer. They have more than 100 different beers and also have cocktails. The cocktail featured in the video above looks perfect for a spring day, especially since the weather in NYC is amazing these days.
If you’re a Manhattanite, even trekking down to Brooklyn can be a special date out with your Bagel. Do the whole package- walk the Brooklyn Bridge, chill out at One Stop Beer Shop and bring some back home! Best part of this place is the growlers. You can either get it for pick up or order for delivery but you can bring your favorite beer home in glass jugs, which keeps them carbonated for at least a month.
Done, I’m sold. If I can bring my Dogfish 60 home after a great date out in Brooklyn, I’ll do it.
One Stop Beer Shop
Location: 134 Kingsland Ave, near Beadel St, Brooklyn
Phone: 718-599-0128
(Source: http://www.thrillist.com/)
should we text or talk on the phone?
A good number of my friends are on board and are loving Coffee Meets Bagel- not because I’ve brain washed them with it but because they appreciate the quality of the members and the simplicity of the system.
Many of my friends have been matched and went on dates with their bagels. I was surprised to see the different personalities come out in this process. Once a bagel and coffee gets matched, they have a private line they can communicate through. This way they can text without giving each other’s real phone number.
There are 2 different ways different bagels approach this situation.
The first, which I thought would be the case for most matches, is that the two text for a couple of days to get to know each other. If the two “click” they will exchange their real numbers and plan a date to actually meet up for coffee.
However I’ve noticed that many bagels are much more aggressive, proactive and forward. After the first text, he goes straight to, “This is my phone number*** *** ****, what’s yours?” I’ve seen another bagel ask for the real number and asked if they could talk over the phone that evening. He skipped the whole texting process and jumped right into the phone call stage. Sexy and Confident? I don’t know, but definitely bold.
For my friend’s case she was turned off by such forwardness but I think it take’s great confidence. Also, it shows that the bagel did not want to beat around the bushes and knew what he wanted.
It’s hard to figure when it’s the right time to exchange each other’s real number, TALK on the phone and to meet up for a date, when you two have met through such social platform. But hey, have fun with it, don’t take it too seriously, but not too lightly.
If you two “click” hopefully you don’t have to think about it too much and can just go with the flow.
I don’t know how I feel about this one ;)
You know he’s into you when he deletes his online dating profile.
New Japanese Restaurant- NETA
Why won’t you try out a new Japanese place in Greenwich Village with you new date?
Enjoy sophisticated, clean and delightful Japanese small plates, sashimi and sushi from an open kitchen.
DailyCandy says the “omakase tasting menu with blowfish beneath shaved daikon radishes and scallops and sea urchin served sizzling on a half shell” is a must.
OPENS TODAY, Friday 3/9/2012. Daily 5-10:30pm
Location: 61 W. 8th St., between Fifth & Sixth Avenues
Phone: (212) 505- 2610
Website:http://www.netanyc.com/
When is a GOODbye…GOOD?
Ugly Betty may not be the best girl to go to for dating advice but, she got me thinking the other day.
Here’s what triggered my thoughts…
“I’ve had to say goodbye more times than I’ve liked, but everyone can say that. And no matter how many times we do it, even when it’s for the greater good, it still stings. And though we’ll never forget what we’ve given up, we owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward. What we can’t do is live our lives always afraid of the next goodbye, because chances are they’re not going to stop. The trick is to recognize when a goodbye can be a good thing; when it’s a chance to start again.” –Ugly Betty
I’m a believer of “LOVE CONQUERS ALL” and Betty Suarez here is saying we sometimes have to let our loved one go for the “greater good’? I agree there are certain situations that can be difficult in keeping a relationship- long distance in many cases or friends and family’s disapproval (I’m throwing possible situations out there). However, no matter how difficult the situation is, if the two love each other and have the patience and strength to fight through, there is no need to part ways. I say “recognizing when a goodbye can be a good thing” is an excuse and is a way of giving up on the relationship.
Why can’t people love hard even if it entails heartaches and fighting through challenging times?
What do you think? Is this a cowardly excuse to get a chance to start anew OR is there really a GOOD goodbye?