12:00pm rolls around and you get that email you’ve been waiting for-your Bagel is waiting for you!
But all that excitement is immediately killed when you open your email and see something like this-
I am FUN, OPTIMISTIC
I look HAPPY, JUST LIKE MY PICTURES
I like BASKETBALL
I appreciate when my date N/A
What’s with the scarcity in words? How are you supposed to figure out what kind of person he/she is with 5 details- if you even consider “fun” as being detailed? It is most likely you will pass on this Bagel not because he/she is bad person but just because there weren’t enough information on the profile.
So, let’s bring this scenario into your hands.
The first thing your match sees is your profile, so you want to have your profile truly represent yourself and being descriptive always helps. Why would you not want to tell people about yourself? This is your way of telling your Bagel you two may be a good match overall- if he/she is. If you do not have such information on your profile how will the Bagel know at all?
There are 2 big frequent reasons why people pass on their Bagels.
1. Poor picture quality
2. Not enough information
These two reasons have nothing to do about the actual Bagel behind the profile but more so due to the lack of and poor representation. This can and should change! Here are some suggestions to really make your profile “better” so your Bagels will not pass on you for such reasons.
<This is what your profile looks like. The top part is the easy part, so fill in accordingly!>
LET’S FIRST WORK ON YOUR PICTURES! We recommend that you upload at least 3 pictures of yourself that
1. shows your face (closeup)
2. shows what you like to do (maybe a picture of you playing basketball, golf, hanging out with your friends, but all that shows your face too)
3. shows not only your face but also your full body (just to show your height, general vibe you give off)
and you can throw in another picture just to give your Bagels a better idea and to show how attractive you are :) Also, it’s best if you put pictures you took within the last year or two. We’ve seen some people post pictures of themselves when they were back in high school. C’mon it’s most likely you don’t look like that anymore so let’s not give people the wrong impression.
NOW LET’S GO ON TO YOUR DESCRIPTION SECTION. Filling out CMB’s profile is pretty easy because we only require you to fill out 4 sections. Rather than using one word descriptions here are some suggestions to amp up your profile.
For I AM… (ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITY)
– Tell people who you really are and what your friends say about you.
ex> straight talker who cannot hide my feelings, family-oriented, friendly and easy to approach
For I LOOK…(APPEARANCE)
– Something people cannot tell from your pictures
Ex> I am taller than I look in pictures (5’11”), People say I look younger than my age, more of a J Crew kind of guy
For I DO….(WHAT YOU LIKE TO DO)
– tell them what your hobbies, quirks, interest are
Ex> snowboarding and golfing, so I go on trips twice a year, reading the wikipedia, going to the museum, going camping, being spontaneous and taking random day trips
For DATING ETIQUETTE…(I APPRECIATE WHEN MY DATE)
– What are the deal breakers for you?
– What qualities do your man/woman MUST have?
– What makes a perfect date?
Ex> my date takes charge and plans ahead of time, isn’t afraid of going to new places and trying ethnic food on a first date, is comfortable and good at communicating
Not too hard, right? But you see the difference in being a little more descriptive in explaining yourself. If you put yourself on the other side, wouldn’t you feel more confident in PASSING or LIKING your Bagel if you actually read details about him/her?
We hope these small tips and advice encouraged you to review your profile and if you haven’t already add more details to it! Maybe some Bagels in the past passed you because they just didn’t know about you enough. So let’s prevent that from happening from now on.
Let’s step it up members and truly show others who you really are!