The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Lily Rudolph
He walks with a swagger and a stride, leans against walls and exerts a sense of control that makes you think he was born driving motorcycles while playing an electric guitar.
She walks in and everyone turns to look her way. She could be wearing skinny jeans, a little pink dress, plaid overalls, or sleeve tattoos and dermal piercings. She would make a potato sack look hot.
They have incredible charisma, the kind that makes you feel cooler just by hanging around them. It is hard to define cool but we know it when we see it. Here are 5 dating tips that are sure to make your date think you’re cool.
1. Set out to have fun
Don’t over think or second guess yourself. I know that this is easier said than done. Dating is a bit like bowling. Now, I am really bad at bowling so if you are good at it maybe you should replace this analogy with a different activity. Whenever I go bowling, which is maybe twice a year, I start off thinking to myself, I don’t have much experience with this so I’ll just have fun and not worry about how well I do. Then my first few turns are amazing. I hit strikes and spares. I begin to think, wow I’m not too bad at this after all. So I start to strategize: maybe if I move the ball this way it will go down the center and I will have better aim. I hesitate and second guess and roll ball after ball into the gutter. That is when I realize that my game is much better when I just set out to have fun and see what happens.
2. Look accidentally beautiful
There is no need to pile on the make-up or hair gel. Instead of hiding behind fashion, use it to accentuate your natural beauty. The best way to look accidentally beautiful is to feel beautiful. Here are some amazing blogs that can lend you some inspiration:
For women that are “all shades of beautiful” Afrobella is a fabulous blog about beauty, hair, and culture.
If you want to stay fashion forward check out Painfully Hip. This blog even offers tips for staying chic on a budget.
For menswear Style Girlfriend is an excellent source for men’s fashion from a female perspective.
For natural and organic cosmetics check out Living Pretty, Naturally . This blog also shares tips for yoga, wellness, and healthy living.
3. Be in the know
Don’t get stuck in the old “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
Come up with some fun things that you can do together. For ideas check out Thrillist an awesome site that will fill you in on the fun, crazy, and unique things to do around your city.
4. Have interesting things to talk about
Share some crazy stories that give a bit of insight into who you are. If you have lived a super dull existence try looking to the outer world for stories that will interest your date. Digg and Technorati are incredible resources for fun facts and current events.
5. MOST IMPORTANTLY: REMEMBER THAT CONFIDENCE IS KEY!
Without it you could end up here…
but with it, you will likely be here