The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Lily Rudolph
I remember when my ex-boyfriend of three years broke up with me. I couldn’t eat or sleep. Instead I lay on my couch in tears, listening to Bright Eyes and drinking whiskey straight – and I am not a whiskey drinker. It was my Dad, of all people, who gave me some of the best advice I’ve ever heard about breakups. He said, “If someone tells you that they don’t want to be with you they are doing you a favor.” Of course he was right, you don’t want to waste your time clinging to a one-sided romance. Here are my tips on how to survive heartbreak the healthy way:
1. Embrace Your Artistic Side
Paint or play music. If you feel like you need more closure write a letter to your ex, just think twice before actually sending it. If you are not naturally creative, blog sites like Urban Dater or Letter To My Ex can provide excellent inspiration or at least a bit of company for your misery.
2. Get Outside
I know you are tired, and you probably don’t feel like doing much. You just want to drown in your own sadness. Just remember, energy breeds energy. Even a short hike will release those endorphins and put things back into perspective. For great outdoor deals that will cheer you up and add a little spring to your step check out The Clymb.
3. Indulge, Just a Little Bit
You are going through a hard time, you are allowed to give in to at least some of your cravings. For amazing recipes that taste good and are good for you check out Elana’s Pantry. Now you can indulge without feeling guilty!
4. Positive Affirmations
It is easy to blame yourself for what went wrong, but you shouldn’t beat yourself up. Try to tell yourself positive things throughout the day. Tiny Buddha is a great website for inspirational quotes and condolences.
5. Allow People to Bring You Up
Never, under any circumstances, start a conversation with a stranger by saying, “I should tell you, I just got out of a serious relationship.” NO you should not tell them that! If you don’t have anything positive to bring to the table, let the others run the show. Who knows? Maybe they will distract you into having a good time. If you don’t feel like meeting new people right now, that’s cool too. Surround yourself with the people you love.
Remember, this too is temporary. You will be back on your feet soon enough and CMB is always here to help with daily bagels and dating tips. Good Luck!