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9 Stages of Falling In Love

July 23, 2014/in Date Stories /by Guest Blogger

Stage 1: You spot a cute person for the first time: BAM!

Stage 2: Being shy as hell.
But it’s all worth it if you muster up courage and talk to the person. If the initial meeting goes well, you might be asked for a first date.

Stage 3: OMG! I’m going on a date!

Stage 4: Five hours in front of the mirror.

Stage 5: The awkward first date cat and parrot first date

Stage 6: The even more awkward first kiss

Stage 7: Things get more fun.

Stage 8: It’s time for that starry-doe-eyed look.

Stage 9: Now all you need is a couch for you two.

Hopefully it’ll last!

Speaking of animals, perhaps you’ll be interested in The Biological Reasons Why She or He is Not That Into You.

About Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB): CMB is a free dating service that helps members make meaningful connections. It’s designed for busy singles who want to find something real with little or no effort.

6 First Date Spots That Must Be Avoided

June 4, 2014/in Uncategorized /by Guest Blogger

The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Bronson Farr

The feeling you get when your bagel likes you back is similar to that of a giddy tween girl about to go into her first One Direction concert. You’re excited, he/she said yes, you show your phone to your friends because you can’t believe it just happened. But now comes the hard part: Where do you go on that first date? Here is some first date advice on some places you should avoid when planning your meet-up with your bagel.
Night Clubs
Night clubs are places where you go to dance like there is no tomorrow, have a couple of drinks, and have a great night out with your friends. Clubs aren’t ideal for an outing with your date for many reasons. The most obvious ones are that the music is cranked up so high that you’re unable to understand each clearly and the fact that there are so many people around you that you can’t really have any privacy to get to know each other better.

“WHAT? I can’t hear you over the top 40s playlist the DJ is playing right now.”

Messy Food
If you’re thinking about grabbing a bite to eat for your first date, you may want to choose carefully. You can’t make the best first impression if your face or shirt is covered in hot sauce at your favorite restaurant that serves hot wings. It’s better to play it safe and meet up at a café or at a local coffee shop.

Let’s be honest, is this what your really want to look like while eating on the first date?

Movies
This option is a bit more on the border for some people. The traditional-dinner-and-a-movie date is great and all, but it would be pretty rude if you started talking to your date during a movie. It’s better to get to know your bagel over a cup of coffee than staying silent in a movie theater.

Bro, I don’t think she’s diggin’ you.

Protest/Political Rally
It’s great that you really care about your community. It’s also great that you have joined an organization whose members share your views and have taken action to promote change in society. But going on a first date to a protest or political rally? That is definitely a no go.

The “NO” signs mean don’t take your bagel to a protest for your first date.

Your House
Your house, or personal living space, should be off limits until you and your bagel are comfortable enough. You may be the chef who beat out Martha Stewart in a cook-off that one time, but show off those skills to your date after you have gone out a couple of times already.

You may have the nicest house on the block, but it still wouldn’t the best place for a first date.

The Gym
The gym is where people can go to get their fitness on to get in shape for what ever reason that maybe. While there is room for some social interaction with others, it most definitely is not the place for a first date. Sweating is a great sign of a good workout, but not always the best sight to see, especially when on a date. However, this is a great date idea if you and your bagel have been seeing each other for a while.

While going Super Saiyan is cool and all, it’s not too impressive on a first date.

About Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB): CMB is a free dating service that helps members make meaningful connections. It’s designed for busy singles who want to find something real with little or no effort.

My First Dates: What I Think Will Happen vs. What Actually Happens

June 2, 2014/in Funny & Videos /by Guest Blogger

I’ve gone on plenty of first dates, and I generally go in with expectations. But even though I’ve had flops, I still enjoyed them. Sure, some of these “reality” points are exaggerated, but don’t let that stop you from having a good time, or at least obtain a story you can now retell to crack up your friends over lunch.

1) When You Decide on What to Wear

Expectation:

Reality:

2) When You Make Your Way to the Date

Expectation:

Reality:

3) When You Finally Meet Your Date in Person

Expectation from the photos:

Reality once you meet in person:

4) When You Start Talking To Each Other

Expectation:

Reality:

5) When You’re Going for a Kiss

Expectation:

Reality:

6) When You’re Wondering If You’ll Text After the Date

Expectation:

Reality: He/she never texts…

But, hey, at least I’m putting myself out there and meeting people. After all, you have to kiss a bunch of frogs before you kiss a prince, so at least I’m happy I’m gaining experience out there!

Speaking of texting, are you guilty of any of these 5 texting mistakes? If you are, learn how to fix your mistake by reading Five Texting Mistakes That I’ve Made and Don’t Want You to Make. About Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB): CMB is a free dating service that helps members make meaningful connections. It’s designed for busy singles who want to find something real with little or no effort.

5 Ways I Changed the Way I Message Women (and scored multiple dates!)

April 28, 2014/in For Him /by Guest Blogger

I guess one could say that the last couple of weeks of mine have been hectic when it comes to my dating life but it was worth it. In the world of online dating, messaging is what bridges the gap between seeing someone’s profile and going out on a date with them. Unfortunately, for one reason or another, many of us men don’t always end up achieving the success we would like to when messaging women. To understand how to better our chances, and also to get some dates, I messaged thirty women on an online dating site using the following five approaches: aggressive, passive, cheesy, inquisitive, and informal. For example, I messaged six women with an aggressive approach, six woman with a passive approach, and so on. This post includes the five key ways I changed the way I message women after analyzing my interactions, as well as, examples of each approach that was used.

1. The beginning of the conversation is the time to find common ground in order to establish a connection

In the beginning, be funny, ask a question, and pay attention to the details. Let the conversation flow naturally from the initial message but keep in mind that the point of the interaction is for it to lead to a date.

2. Demonstrate that you took the time to read her profile by mentioning an interest of hers

Within the first three to four messages mention something that has to do with the details within their profile that you actually have an interest in. In addition, doing this when it is time to ask her out on a date will absolutely help your chances.

3. If she doesn’t respond to your first message within 48 hours then send an engaging question that she can’t help but answer

Sending one follow up message is a good idea because it shows that you are seriously interested in her but do your best to not come off pushy or aggressive.

4. Suggest a date immediately after receiving a positive response from her

The most success I experienced when suggesting a date was seen immediately after receiving a positive response from her. If you made her ‘lol’ and the conversation has exceeded 4 exchanges then go ahead and ask! Definitely do not let the conversation pass around 7 messaging exchanges before mentioning the date. After 7 exchanges the average conversation tends to lose its muster.

5. End the conversation shortly after making plans for a date

Shortly after you ask her out on a date is an ideal time to end the conversation because momentum plays a big role during the early stages of dating. By doing this you eliminate the opportunity for the conversation to lose its appeal and close out the conversation on a high note.

Examples and Main Takeaways of Each Approach Used

1. Cheesy

Main Takeaway: Being cheesy experienced zero success. No cheese please.

2. Aggressive

Main Takeaway: Being aggressive the whole time while messaging someone will end up turning most people away. Instead be aggressive only when it is appropriate. For example, when asking to go on a date.

3. Passive

Main Takeaway: This did receive some responses but give the person you message something to work with.

4. Informal

Main Takeaway: Being informal experienced zero success.

5. Inquisitive

Main Takeaway: Use questions to start the conversation and to keep it going but don’t be excessive, got it? Are you sure? How about now?

Did you enjoy this post? Then check out We Tested 11 Different Male Profile Pictures and This Is What Happened!

About Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB): CMB is a dating app designed with women in mind. Founded by 3 sisters in 2012 in NYC, CMB aims to deliver a fun, safe, and quality dating experience that results in meaningful relationships.

Who Has More Fun when it Comes to Dating: New York or San Francisco?

April 7, 2014/in NYC, SF /by Guest Blogger

The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Dana Middleton

New York and San Francisco are large, cosmopolitan cities that have a lot to offer in terms of entertainment, culture, shopping and dining. But the similarities between the two cities end right there, especially when it comes to dating.

Let’s take a closer look as to how the game is played in the contemporary battlefield of romance where New Yorkers and San Franciscans win, lose and break hearts.

1. Where you meet:

NYC: Either some East Village dive bar or some fratastic sports bar in Murray Hill.

SF: You were introduced at a house party. Or online, through one of the many dating apps everyone seems to be on.

2. Your first date:

NYC: Overpriced drinks at a dark, loud but chic lounge in SoHo.

SF: Overpriced coffee at an artisanal, organic coffee shop in the Mission.

3. He showed up:

NYC: At 10pm, coming straight from his investment bank’s office, wearing a suit and a tie.

SF: At 6:15pm, wearing a hoodie and sneakers. He was 15 minutes late because his shuttle bus was attacked by protesters.

4. She showed up:

NYC: Hair blown out at Drybar, wearing a tiny little black dress and heels.

SF: Wearing jeans a T-shirt, carrying a yoga mat.

5. During the date, he:

NYC: “I just gotta check my emails one more time. I’m working on a really important deal. I can’t talk about it. What was I saying? Oh yes, will be out in the Hamptons this weekend.”

SF: “I’m just killing at my start-up. I want to retire by 35. Especially if my investments in Bitcoin go well. Until then, I’m just gonna keep going skiing in Tahoe on and go on meditation retreats.”

6. During the date, she:

NYC: “TheEast Side is SOOOO much better than the West Side. I love having brunch & mimosas at Sarabeth’s. And I always hang out at Ulysses for happy hour.”

SF: “I just got my Google glasses and love them. Can’t wait to go wine tasting in Napa this weekend.”

7. After the date:

NYC: He got in a black town car. She got in a taxi, after pleading with the driver to take her back to Williamsburg.

SF: You competed to see who can get an Uber or Lyft on their phone quicker. You split the fare on the app.

8. Second date:

NYC: You have a 50-50% chance of making it that far. But if you do, get ready for some tapas at Casa Mono or sushi at Morimoto. (That is if he is trying really hard to impress her)

SF: Walking around the farmers market, picking up locally grown strawberries. Or dinner eating organic kale & quinoa salad at The Plant.

9. Form of communication:

NYC: Email or BBM. Wait, people still use blackberries? Yeah, in NY they do.

SF: Snapchat. Any evidence of your flirty exchanges will self-destruct in 10 seconds.

10. Long-term dating potential:

NYC: Hit or miss. One of you is bound to get way too busy with work.

SF: Greater than 50%. People always need a +1 to bike across the Golden Gate Bridge with.

Did you love this post? Then check out The Only Dating Timeline You’ll Ever Need: Dating Advice For Women!
About Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB): Every day at noon, we introduce you to one single with whom you share mutual friends. You have 24 hours to LIKE or PASS your match (aka “Bagels”). Mutual LIKE leads to direct connection via text message on a private phone line.

Holly's Dating Tips: Should I Ask Out a Bagel Via Text Message?

November 30, 2013/in For Her /by Guest Blogger

Q: I’ve read a lot of advice that says I should wait until a Bagel actually calls to set up a date. We’ve texted for a few days, but haven’t exchanged numbers. He’s asked if I wanted to meet up via text, so should I say yes?

A: A lot of antiquated advice on the internet tells you to call when setting up a first date. Or that you shouldn’t accept a first date arranged via text. Don’t listen to this advice. It was published back when Lindsay Lohan still had a thriving cinematic career. I’m sure before that, people were advising you against accepting anything less than a handwritten invitation for a first date and that the new fangled telephone was ruining the courtship process.

Texting is fine. In fact, at Coffee Meets Bagel, we give your own private text line with the explicit hopes you will use it to arrange a coffee date. See? We make answering this question easy.

Why a text line, though? Because until after you meet and probably not until after you’ve met several times, your bagel is a stranger. And though we’re not inciting “stranger danger” (you already know to meet in a public place for coffee, not a darkened alleyway in the warehouse district), it is hard for our generation to gab on the phone with someone we don’t know. It’s a social norm these days to reserve phone calls for emergencies and social intimacy. We can mourn the loss of it as a form of communication, but ask yourself how many close friends you’ve actually dialed this week? I rest my case.

So relax. Use the chat line. Set up the date. When you meet in real life, have your first conversation face-to-face the way Lindsay Lohan intended.
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Want some more dating tips? Check out my previous post on how to meet new people this winter!

But What Are We Going to Talk About?

July 23, 2013/in Date Tips /by Guest Blogger

The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Lily Rudolph

Yep, we have all been there:
“So what do you do?”
“I work in (not very interesting office job)”
“Really, I work for (similarly dull business)”
Then the silence grows as you rack your brain for questions to ask each other. Of course you are supposed to stay away from controversial topics like politics, sex, and religion. Talking about family and future goals seems heavy for a first date, but that doesn’t mean the conversation has to be boring. Here are 4 interesting conversation topics that will keep you chatting on your first date.
1. Traveling

Just the thought of travel takes your mind to a new place. Share stories about places you have visited and cultural experiences you have had. Allow yourself to get wistful. I know it might seem silly to tell your date about your dream of sailing around the world or visiting the moon, especially if you are the super-logical type, but once you get lost in conversation the date will feel more comfortable and fun. For a little inspiration check out Amazing Places by The Cool Hunter.
2. Shared Interests

Whether you share an affinity for climbing, surfing, cooking, knitting or anime conventions, talking about shared interests will bring you closer together and might even give you ideas for future dates. If you can’t think of a favorite past time maybe it’s time to start a new one. Check out these tips for hobby hunting in A Beautiful Mess, an awesome blog by Elise and Emma Larsen.
3. Things That Used to be in Style

This only really works if you were born in the same part of the world in the same generation, but talking about your favorite childhood TV shows and the fashion you grew up with will allow you to relate to each other’s memories. For ideas check out BuzzFeed Rewind. If you grew up in the 80’s, Like Totally 80’s will be a total blast from the past.
4. If You Were Stranded on a Desert Island blah blah blah

Okay so that one is a bit played out, but creative questions can be fun. My favorites are: If you were to design a restaurant what would it be like? If you were born into a different decade what decade would you choose? If you could sleep with one dead celebrity (in their prime of course) who would it be and why?
Most importantly, remember to be creative. Use these dating tips as guidelines that you can branch off from, let the conversation flow naturally, and have fun!

Sunday Spotlight: Claire Mazur

July 21, 2012/in Date Ideas, NYC /by CMB

In this week’s Sunday Spotlight, we hit up Claire Mazur, the co-founder of Of a Kind, “an art gallery for emerging designers” that carries exclusive limited editions. Of a Kind selects designers whose work it loves and features them on the site, one at a time (sound familiar?). As the first ever store to be launched on Tumblr, Claire & Of a Kind have been covered by WWD, DailyCandy, the Today Show and more.
Even though Claire is currently not single (sorry gents!), we couldn’t think of anyone better to get fashion & date tips than Claire—she’s been in the fashion industry since 16, after a chance encounter with Donna Karan. And being in the fashion industry also means lots of opportunities for social events at the hottest spots in the city!
To keep up with her latest & greatest, follow Claire on tweeter @ofakind
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1. What is the must-have accessories for men this summer that can elevate his looks?

Men need to make sure their summer shoe game is on point. This is, evidently, a struggle for them. I don’t think flip-flops are acceptable for dudes, and, in general, I think you’d be hard-pressed to find a guy who can pull off any type of sandal. I think the single-color slip-on Vans (#1) are a nice and inexpensive solution—white is great if you can keep them clean. If you want something a little more substantial and are willing to shell out a bit more money, these Common Projects sneakers (#2) are also great.

2. Same for ladies?

I rarely leave home without my jean jacket in the summer—it goes with everything I wear and it’s clutch in combating the A/C-induced whiplash when moving from outdoors to indoors. I love this vintage one by reformation (#3) which they updated with lace sleeves—so perfect for summer.

Something else I’ve been over-wearing most this summer are the wren batik print shorts in red (#4), which I purchased from Of a Kind. They are ridiculously comfortable and light—and also make me look like I’m putting in more effort than throwing on a pair of jean cut-offs.

3. (Bonus for New Yorkers!) What is your idea of the best Sunday date in NYC?

Almost anything that tears me away from the computer and my inbox would be great! I love a good bloody mary, and I’ve been dying to try the one at Joseph Leonard, so I’d want to head there for a big brunch. Then we’d walk it off on our way over to the Megaplex at Union Square to see Magic Mike. I never get to see movies when they’re still in the theatres, and this one seems like it would be well-served by the big screen. This all assumes the weather is gross and I’ll want to escape into the air-conditioning, since that’s New York’s M.O. lately. On the off-chance that it’s pleasant out I’d love to try the free kayaking on the Hudson

June 30, 2012/in Uncategorized /by CMB

Coffee Meets Bagel partnered with Lindsey Jones Makeup Artistry to present makeup lessons for your first date!

Lesson #1: Get the perfect first date look for your CHEEKS

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June 30, 2012/in Uncategorized /by CMB

Coffee Meets Bagel partnered with Lindsey Jones Makeup Artistry to present makeup lessons for your first date!

Lesson #2: How to get that moist & glowy look for your FACE

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Posts

9 Stages of Falling In Love

6 First Date Spots That Must Be Avoided

5 Ways I Changed the Way I Message Women (and scored multiple dates!)

Who Has More Fun when it Comes to Dating: New York or San Francisco?

1. Where you meet:

2. Your first date:

3. He showed up:

4. She showed up:

5. During the date, he:

6. During the date, she:

7. After the date:

8. Second date:

9. Form of communication:

10. Long-term dating potential:

Holly's Dating Tips: Should I Ask Out a Bagel Via Text Message?

But What Are We Going to Talk About?

Sunday Spotlight: Claire Mazur

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