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Dating Tips for the 21st Century Princess

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The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Catherine Nguyen

Hey Ladies,
Let’s face it, everyone wants to fall in love like Cinderella and her Prince Charming. Or ride away into the sunset on a magic carpet with their Aladdin. Whoever it is, there are definitely some dating tips you can pick up from your childhood princesses to turn your next Bagel into your future Prince Charming.
So, in honor of Pixar’s Monster’s University release this Friday, June 21st, we’re having our own Throwback Thursday (#tbt) blog post dedicated to Disney Princess dating tips! How do these lovely ladies manage their love life in the face of adversity, whether that be in the form of a crazy stepmom or crazed suitor, Jafar? Let’s find out:
Cinderella & Prince Charming
Although Cinderella was a servant for her wicked stepmother & sisters, and had nothing to wear for the upcoming Ball, she was innovative with what she could make do with. By simply sprucing up your date outfit, you can make a strong fashion statement about the type of woman you are. Check out Poshmark, mentioned in our latest post for recent college grads new to SF, the best app for shopping the closets of other women around the world – maybe you’ll find a ball-worthy gown for your next date!
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Cinderella manages to sneak away at the stroke of midnight due to a wardrobe malfunction, but leaves the Prince hanging for more at the expense of her glass slipper. If you want to be more gracefully reminded that you have to leave your date at midnight, check out the Twist app to give yourself (and any crazy stepsisters waiting for you) a reminder of what time you will be arriving home. No more abandoned glass slippers!
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Beauty & the Beast
“Don’t judge a book by its cover” – although quite self-explanatory for the Beast, the same can be applied to Belle. Ladies, don’t be afraid to show that beauty can come (and should come) with brains! In our latest post, 5 Reasons Why Nerds are the New Cool, nerds are not only smart but are more likely to emulate the “work hard, play hard” motto when having fun. So be flirty and sassy with your next (nerdy) Bagel, and maybe it can bring out the man hidden in the beast.

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Belle does this by jokingly throwing snowballs at the Beast, and helps him to loosen up!

Little Mermaid & Prince Eric
“It’s all about that body language” as Ursula said, right before taking away Ariel’s beautiful voice in exchange for human legs. Without it, Ariel had to learn how to capture the attention & affection of Prince Eric, using her body language, eye contact, and genuine interest. Romantic, one-on-one dates, like a boat ride through a lagoon with a singing crab in the background, or better yet a low-key summer festival in your local area (SF, LA, Chicago, & Boston, NY, DC are coming up soon!) are great ways to learn how to master your body language and make your next Bagel apart of your world.
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CMB Men's Series: How to Score a 2nd Date

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CMB Men’s Series is original content dedicated to (confused) men and dating in the city.
Guys typically know within 30 seconds of meeting a girl whether she is compatible and has long term potential. However, just because it’s easy for us to recognize potential, it doesn’t mean that it’s easy to convince the date that we’re worth their time.
Here are 4 essential steps to take on a first date that will help you land a 2nd.
1. Plan the Proper First Date
Choose somewhere you are familiar with, a place where you may know the owners or the best dishes to order. The goal of the first date is to get to know each other, so let her see you in your most comfortable environment.
Less is more!  No need for pre-dinner drinks, dinner, post-dinner drinks, Broadway Show..etc. She’s not getting  a realistic perception of you if you put on a production.  And guess what? If you continue to see each other, she will continue to keep expectations high.
Keep it simple.  82% of women polled in CMB’s survey said that they typically go to a coffee shop or bar on a first date. Dating on a budget in NYC? Click here for our hand picked pocket friendly date ideas that will still impress your lady.
Keep a 3 hour time limit. The success of a date doesn’t depend on duration. Having a time pressure will motivate you to get to know your date within that time period, and may leave her wanting more.
Video courtesy of Ms. Singlefied. Visit her at singlefied.com or @singlefiedyue.
2. Ask Her Questions
Obvious fact of the day: women like to talk.  Studies have shown that women communicate more verbally then men.  So naturally it’s easy to let the conversation become one-sided, but don’t let it turn into an interrogation where she’s peppering you with questions.  Take the lead and engage her with questions that show your genuine interest in who she is, where she comes from, and what her values are.
3. Pick Up the Tab

Splitting the bill, or going ‘Dutch’, might make sense to some.  You hardly know each other, the economy stinks, and she has a job. But sorry guys, if you don’t make an effort to pick up the tab, there may not be a 2nd date. Want proof?
CMB’s survey showed that 87%! of women either feel they should never pay on a first date or secretly hope the guy would pay the full bill. Chivalry, and more importantly the expectation of chivalry, is very much still alive.
4. Forget the 2 day/ 3 day/ 1 week rules

There are numerous rules that guys follow for when to contact the girl after the first date. We’ve heard anywhere from 2 days to a week.  However, CMB’s survey showed that most women would touch base the day after the date if it went well (assuming they would initiate). Therefore, you will not come across as a lonely desperate stalker if you contact her the following day.  Keep in mind that 1 out of 3 women said they would never follow up with a date after the first date. Moral of the story – if you want to see her again, don’t wait until Christmas to tell her.

It may not be you, just your profile.

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12:00pm rolls around and you get that email you’ve been waiting for-your Bagel is waiting for you!

But all that excitement is immediately killed when you open your email and see something like this-

I am FUN, OPTIMISTIC

I look HAPPY, JUST LIKE MY PICTURES

I like BASKETBALL

I appreciate when my date N/A

What’s with the scarcity in words? How are you supposed to figure out what kind of person he/she is with 5 details- if you even consider “fun” as being detailed? It is most likely you will pass on this Bagel not because he/she is bad person but just because there weren’t enough information on the profile.

So, let’s bring this scenario into your hands.

The first thing your match sees is your profile, so you want to have your profile truly represent yourself and being descriptive always helps. Why would you not want to tell people about yourself? This is your way of telling your Bagel you two may be a good match overall- if he/she is. If you do not have such information on your profile how will the Bagel know at all?

There are 2 big frequent reasons why people pass on their Bagels.

1. Poor picture quality

2.  Not enough information

These two reasons have nothing to do about the actual Bagel behind the profile but more so due to the lack of and poor representation. This can and should change! Here are some suggestions to really make your profile “better” so your Bagels will not pass on you for such reasons.

<This is what your profile looks like. The top part is the easy part, so fill in accordingly!>

LET’S FIRST WORK ON YOUR PICTURES! We recommend that you upload at least 3 pictures of yourself that

1. shows your face (closeup)

2. shows what you like to do (maybe a picture of you playing basketball, golf, hanging out with your friends, but all that shows your face too)

3. shows not only your face but also your full body (just to show your height, general vibe you give off)

and you can throw in another picture just to give your Bagels a better idea and to show how attractive you are :) Also, it’s best if you put pictures you took within the last year or two. We’ve seen some people post pictures of themselves when they were back in high school. C’mon it’s most likely you don’t look like that anymore so let’s not give people the wrong impression.

NOW LET’S GO ON TO YOUR DESCRIPTION SECTION. Filling out CMB’s profile is pretty easy because we only require you to fill out 4 sections. Rather than using one word descriptions here are some suggestions to amp up your profile. 

For I AM… (ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITY)

– Tell people who you really are and what your friends say about you.

ex> straight talker who cannot hide my feelings, family-oriented, friendly and easy to approach

For I LOOK…(APPEARANCE)

– Something people cannot tell from your pictures

Ex> I am taller than I look in pictures (5’11”), People say I look younger than my age, more of a J Crew kind of guy

For I DO….(WHAT YOU LIKE TO DO)

– tell them what your hobbies, quirks, interest are

Ex> snowboarding and golfing, so I go on trips twice a year, reading the wikipedia, going to the museum, going camping, being spontaneous and taking random day trips

For DATING ETIQUETTE…(I APPRECIATE WHEN MY DATE)

– What are the deal breakers for you?

– What qualities do your man/woman MUST have?

– What makes a perfect date?

Ex> my date takes charge and plans ahead of time, isn’t afraid of going to new places and trying ethnic food on a first date, is comfortable and good at communicating

Not too hard, right? But you see the difference in being a little more descriptive in explaining yourself. If you put yourself on the other side, wouldn’t you feel more confident in PASSING or LIKING your Bagel if you actually read details about him/her?

We hope these small tips and advice encouraged you to review your profile and if you haven’t already add more details to it! Maybe some Bagels in the past passed you because they just didn’t know about you enough. So let’s prevent that from happening from now on.

Let’s step it up members and truly show others who you really are!

Valentine's Day or Single Awareness Day?

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It’s that time of the year again. You may have noticed a surge in people joining online dating sites and studies on online dating lately. It’s no coincidence that it’s around Valentine’s Day, perhaps the most polarizing holiday in the Western world. Either it’s the most romantic or the most depressing day of the year. Like me, there are a lot of people out there stuck without a date. That shouldn’t bring you down, though. It all really comes down if you think the glass is half empty or half full.
For those optimistic about finding a date at the last minute, Valentine’s Day is only a few days away and, although it does not seem like a lot of time, you may still get lucky. Single people don’t go away over night. There are still some subtle things you can do to get a date, even if it isn’t on V-Day. Subtle cues can attract a date from a mile away. Wearing red is not only lucky but has been proven to attract a member of the opposite sex (or the same-sex as well, depending how you roll). If you take the person you’re interested in to a place with a higher temperature, that can also increase your chances of having a successful date.
Then again, you shouldn’t put pressure on yourself. Don’t let it get to you that you don’t have a date. Take some time on V-Day to focus on the most important person of all: yourself. It sounds cheesy but depression never really helped anyone. In fact, depression can lead to an awful lot of health complications down the line. Instead of wallowing in sorrow and playing Aimee Mann songs, go out and live a little. In the grand scheme of things, V-Day is just another day of the week, albeit with some baggage attached to it.
Like the proverbial glass of water, it really is what you make of it. Personally, I believe that Valentine’s Day is a manufactured holiday, much like that terrible movie that came out a couple of years ago. You don’t need a day to tell you that you have to find someone to love or treat the one you love to a great night out. For my fellow single people out there, you aren’t forever alone when everyone else is in the same boat. For those that have a date, I wish you luck in getting a dinner reservation if you haven’t booked one by now.

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To all singles 2

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It is very important for you to understand and know about yourself. And being comfortable with who you are. So when you meet the one, you still can be yourself. Remember, you shine the most when you are true to yourself. : )

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