How to Overcome Approach Anxiety
Meeting someone new can be challenging. It can be even more challenging for men, especially when they want to approach a beautiful woman. Your heart starts to race and as you take steps towards her, your mouth runs dry and your palm sweats. As you come close to her shivers run down your spine. You start stammering and you start wondering why you are tongue tied. It’s almost as if your body is telling you that it’s a trap, and to retreat, but this is the norm so it’s completely cool for this to happen. With that being said, here are some tips to help you overcome approach anxiety and speak with any woman you want.
1) It’s All In Your Head
Contrary to what you have in your head, beautiful women have nothing to do with your nervousness. It is all within your head. The fear of rejection or being disgraced in public is what gets over you. This simply means even before you take the first step, you have already set yourself to fail by trying to predict the future, and the only part of the future you are predicting is the negative part. So how do you fix this? Don’t become dependent on the outcome. If she continues talking with you, bullseye! However, if she doesn’t, it’s not a big deal because you know that there are so many other women you can approach and talk to.
2) Just Jump
There is a certain philosophy upheld by athletes out there where they say “just jump”. What they mean is that when you want to do something, just take a leap and take action, and the same applies to the dating world. With women there is no right time to take the bold step. Challenge yourself and just approach without anything in mind to say, and you will be surprised at how things turn out smoothly. The best way to “just jump” is to live by the 3 second rule. If you see a beautiful woman you want to approach, you better do it in 3 seconds otherwise you will think of every excuse in the book for not approaching her.
3) Warm Up
By warming up I mean you don’t just approach that woman you have been eyeing for a while. First approach other women around you until you think you are ready. Warm up by approaching women and men around you as much as possible. During your warm up sessions you don’t have to be specialized or have complicated lines, even just saying hello is enough to build up your confidence. The next time you meet up you can push the conversation further by asking their name and anything related and before you know your game on how to talk to women will keep improving.
4) Don’t Forget To Take A Deep Breath
When anxious, many men will experience symptoms like having a higher pulse rate and even excessive sweating. Until you can get rid of whatever is bothering you, you cannot experience a relaxed state. However, you can lie to your brain and tell it that you are actually okay by taking a deep breath. So before you jump and approach that beauty, take a deep breath. You will be surprised with how much this simple trick can help boost your confidence when it comes to approaching women.
Approaching beautiful women can be challenging, but it’s a very simple step. So practice this with anyone and everyone, both men and women. Get used to talking to new people, just to build up your confidence. So when the day comes that you have to approach that beautiful woman, you’ll be able to do it without even thinking twice (and before that 3 seconds is up!).
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