Q&A with members who connected with each other through Coffee Meets Bagel

MADELINE, 23
VIRGINIA

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Nope! I had never even been on a blind date before.

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: I appreciated how discrete and private the service was, and that it was free of charge! I was looking into sites to try online dating for the first time, and was intimidated and turned off by the idea of putting a profile out there that people could search. I tried a couple free trial searches on other sites and was unnerved when I found profiles for people I knew and/or would never date. I liked that I wouldn't receive random messages from strangers on CMB, and that I would get a "daily Bagel," one person at a time. I also liked that I would never have to communicate my rejection to anyone, or vice-versa - all we would need to do was click "pass" and never worry about how to phrase a "no" to a stranger. I also liked that my full name and real phone number and email address would not be revealed, I could share them when I was ready. Overall CMB struck me as a low-key, easy, private and safe way to meet new people.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: Nope, he was my first Bagel ever. Jackpot!

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: He fit all my preferences! Age, location, religion, he had finished college and found a "real" job (career potential, at least from the title). He seemed like a kind and honest guy in his profile, very real and down-to-earth. He looked cute in his pictures, and he had one picture of himself in a suit with what looked like family members - family is really important to me, so that was intriguing. He said he was athletic and looking for someone active, so I hesitated for a moment before clicking "LIKE" because that's not a huge part of my personality, but we seemed like a good enough fit so I went for it!

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: He texted me almost immediately after we were connected, and after a few messages he asked to meet just a few days later, on a Sunday night.

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: We had one mutual Facebook friend, who I knew from college and I think he knew from high school, but that hasn't made a difference yet. I barely even remembered that I was Facebook friends with this person, and I don't remember exactly when I met this mutual friend during college.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: Lovely :) We met for a drink at a brewery/restaurant I enjoy. He got there a solid 15 minutes early and texted that he was waiting outside for me, and I was impressed! The conversation flowed so easily, we wound up sticking around for dinner and hours of talking. We "clicked" immediately. Best first date ever!

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: We still aren't "official," but I have no interest in seeing anyone else right now, and neither does he. For our second date he cooked me dinner at his apartment, and for our third date we are going to watch a football game. We also have a few events penciled in over the next few months, so things are looking good!

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Go for it!

DANA, 27
VIRGINIA

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Yes. I'd used JDate (a popular Jewish dating website) multiple times over the past several years. I dated plenty using the site, but very few first dates turned into more than that. I've also used a handful of other targeted Jewish dating websites and matchmakers, but infrequently and with no real success.

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: An old college roommate/good friend mentioned it to me. Given all the bad dating experiences I've had, especially this past year, I figured it couldn't be any worse; at the very least, I might get some bad dates - but good dating stories - out of it. Also, the name was inventive and great, and the concept is a really simple but obviously well-founded one!

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: Yes, once. But the person was very flirty and flighty, and only a handful of texts were ever exchanged. I could tell early on the guy was a serial flirt, and that I wasn't likely interested.

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: Honestly, I clicked yes to the majority of profiles, but I think there was something sincere and straightforward about Jonathan in his profile picture.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: I think we had been texting back and forth for a couple of weeks with some frequency and when we knew our schedules were free, we planned to get drinks. I can't remember which of us asked first...it's been kind of a whirlwind since the 1st date!

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: Yes, and yes! The mutual friend was someone I knew from college and see from time to time at young professional events, and she led a peer trip abroad in which he participated. On our first date, I could tell this had the potential for a second date, but he *insisted* I get her to vet him. And even though we had already planned a second or third date at that point and I was definitely interested in him, when I emailed with her, she endorsed him so highly that I knew he was someone worth continuing to get to know.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: It was great. :) Most of the dates I've been on this past year lasted an hour, but we were talking for about 4-5 hours on our first date. It probably would have been longer if it hadn't been a weeknight... And maybe? Obviously this relationship is really, really new; we're still getting to know one another; and anything can happen...but it's pretty awesome how easy and natural things are and feel, and that was evident, I think to both of us, fairly early on.

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: Between dates 4 and 5, which were both this past week.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Be open, and take some risks! And include something quirky and unique on your own profile (even if it's one of your profile pics) - it'll help you stand out a bit, and provide some good conversation material if you do end up on a date.

JEN, 26
LOS ANGELES

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: No

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: I liked the idea of not sifting through profiles.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: First Bagel with whom I connected

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: He looked like a nice person (intangible)

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: He asked and we met 5 days after connecting

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: No mutual friend

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: Yes! Click!

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: It's not official, but it has potential.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: No advice. Just keep an open mind if someone who is not exactly what you THINK you want Likes you. You never know.

RYO, 23
SAN FRANCISCO

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Never.

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: It seemed fun and easy. I also liked knowing if I had friends in common with someone and the matches were mostly very highly educated.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: I was connected to a couple people, and had one in person date on CMB before this bagel.

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: Her smile in photographs.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: I asked to meet and it only took about an hour and maybe 6-7 text message exchanges.

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: No mutual friends, and it didn't make any difference.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: It was the best date I've ever had. Yes, this was "click" at first sight. We both made each other feel comfortable so our true selves could come out.

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: Not official yet, but getting there.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Take a chance! You never know who you will meet.

ALEXANDRA, 32
BOSTON

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Yes. eHarmony and Match.

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: I heard about it from a friend who started using it after a breakup. When I started using it, I found a match right away and within a week, I was met for my first date. It went pretty well, so I kept using the app and the next week, I found my match! You can call me a CMB evangelist now, haha. The app is simply takes a lot of work out of regular online dating, which involves sifting through profiles, and competing with hundreds of other people sending the same tacky one-liners.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: Yes, a few people.

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: He seemed smart and fun.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: He asked me. I think we texted for a few days but I can't remember for sure.

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: No, but it would have made me feel even more comfortable meeting him.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: Not for me!

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: 8.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Be open minded - it took a little longer for me but I'm crazy about him now!

JERRY, 28
SEATTLE

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Yes, Match.com.

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: It seemed like a new and interesting way to meet people, and I think it's much more valuable to be able to actually converse with the other person early on instead of sending messages blindly.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: No.

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: She seemed like a strong, driven person.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: I first asked to meet after we chatted on text the first day.

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: No mutual friends. We seemed to connect quite quickly, so I don't feel that this factor wasn't as critical.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: It was good, we chatted for a long while.

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: Three? Not really sure what makes things "official"...

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Don't really have much advice. I was lucky to find her very soon after joining, so I don't know what to say.

WENDY, 22
VIRGINIA

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Neither of us have before

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: We heard from friends and it seemed like a more selective process to meet relatively more compatible/quality matches.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: Yes, I have connected with quite a few other bagels and each resulted differently. Some ended up as friends and some just didn't feel right.

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: He was tall (which is kind of important for me. A lot of matches tend to be a bit short. A bit more on this issue, my sister and I both wished that we can have preferences on heights for the bagel filter because a lot of the times we passed on bagels because of height), and I liked his descriptions of himself and what he was looking for.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: Because I was out of town for a long time, we did not meet up for about 100 days. He initiated the meet up when I was finally free.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Advice to other members: You will most definitely not get amazing bagels every day, but there are definitely some quality matches out there. Over time you'll get one, two, or many more good potentials. Be patient, and your true love could be right around the corner. Plus you don't have to do much other than wait for an email at noon every day. So just keep it up!

DAVID, 23
CONNECTICUT

Q: Have you tried online dating before?
A: Nope

Q: Why Coffee Meets Bagel?
A: It looked interesting, a nice calm and relaxed way to meet people.

Q: Have you connected with anyone else before you met this Bagel?
A: Nope

Q: What was it about this Bagel's profile that made you click "LIKE"?
A: Interest and location.

Q: Who asked to meet first and how soon?
A: Our conversation led to it but i guess i officially asked it, within a week or so.

Q: Did you guys have a mutual friend and did it make any difference?
A: We do have 4 or 5 mutual friends, nope did not make a difference.

Q: How was the first date? Was this "click" at first sight?
A: It was nice, got to know her more. Haha i guess so?

Q: How many dates before it became "official"?
A: I guess after the second date and many countless hours of texting or talking led to it.

Q: Any advice for future Coffee Meets Bagel members?
A: Maybe include built in categories like music and movies in the profile.