It’s that harrowing time of year again – family holidays are full speed ahead and that means you and that flame you’ve been blissfully running around the city arm and arm with, not a care in the world, suddenly have to decide – is it time to meet the parents?
This can be a terrifying notion for both guys and gals, because we all want to be liked by our beau’s family. Buy why is making a good impression on the fam so important in the 21st Century? It seems outdated to some, but meeting family is a big step in a pair’s relationship. If the people who raised your sweetheart from birth – who made them who they are today – have trouble interacting with you, then it may be a sign to reevaluate your relationship.
But hey! Don’t despair! Normally, all it takes is a little extra courtesy and self-awareness to make that trip home to meet his or her parents smooth sailing. And luckily, there’s plenty of easy-to-follow advice on how to make a great first impression.
BostInno’s great writer Lisa DeCanio advised last week in an article about first-time family meet n’ greets: ”Be yourself – but don’t be yourself. Don’t be a phony, but remember that this is much more important that hanging out with your buddies. First impressions matter.”
DeCanio goes on to warn of common mistakes you can avoid when meeting the ‘rents, including:
- Don’t show up empty-handed.
- Avoid any and all mentions of politics.
- Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want Grandma to see.
- Be nice to the family pets and little cousins.
- Do your research – learn about the family.
- Stay off your cell.
- Don’t swear.
- Go easy on the booze.