A note from Paige Butterfield, senior writer at CMB
Answering the first prompt on my Coffee Meets Bagel dating profile, “I am… ,” went something like this:
“I am…always up for an adventure!” Wait, who am I kidding? I’m waiting for a burrito delivery.
“I am…optimistic!” No, no. Too optimistic. DELETE.
“I am…a writer for a living, and yet somehow filling out my CMB profile is hella difficult.”
Let’s get something straight: writing a good dating profile takes real effort. But, it also produces real results. In fact, profiles with details filled out on Coffee Meets Bagel are 50% more liked than profiles with missing details.
But buckle up, this research is headed to party town. When the co-founders of Coffee Meets Bagel pulled the stats to figure out the difference between the profiles of people who entered a relationship through CMB vs. people who stayed single, it boiled down to one thing: their profile length.
Then again, while the research on profile length is encouraging, filling in your profile with an exposé on the plot holes in the Star Wars cinematic universe isn’t going to make you more likely to land a date. (Or is it?)
Instead, follow these five simple tips to fill out your profile like a pro.
1. Think of your profile as a giant icebreaker
Brian, head of Android at Coffee Meets Bagel
Your profile details’ first job is to help you stand out from the crowd. But, it has a passion project, too: to give you and your matches something to talk about as soon as you connect.
And while Coffee Meets Bagel does give you the chance to write your own icebreakers (hidden from your profile) to start off a chat, you can never have too much to talk about. So ask, “What would I tell someone about myself to spark conversation?”
For example, instead of filling out CMB’s second prompt, “I like… ,” as “I like…plants,” you could instead write:
“I like…taking care of my indoor herb garden 🌱. I feel like a pro chef when I add fresh oregano to my homemade pizza! Fair warning: a virtual pizza party with me might end with you learning some scientific plant names.”
Now, you’re taking a potential conversation from, “So…plants,” to conversation on indoor gardens, pizza, and cooking.
2. Be specific because everyone likes dogs
Already, by approaching your profile details as one giant icebreaker, you’re on your way to success. That’s because the more specific we can get, the more our personal story will really shine against the crowd of “The Office” binge-watchers, adventure-seekers, and dog-lovers.
That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with loving dogs (and if there is, I don’t want to be right). But, instead of writing, “I am…a dog-lover,” try:
“I am…a dog parent to a bubbly corgi, Sheldon. When I’m not at the dog park with him 🐕, I’m learning how to surf.”
Not only would you be sharing your love for dogs, but I can already imagine you and Sheldon playing at the park. It feels real, and people don’t want to connect with profiles; they want to connect with people. Plus, you’re sharing an additional activity you enjoy, which could spark conversation – or even lead to a video chat featuring Sheldon himself.
3. Tell ‘em what you want
Getting specific about what you’re looking for from the get-go might feel a little awkward. But on Coffee Meets Bagel, we give you the prompt, “I appreciate when my date… ,” because we know that being open about what you’re looking for is really important. And what you write may not attract everyone, but it will attract that right someone.
Looking for specific values, like kindness and honesty? Write it out. Is an active lifestyle or adherence to a certain diet important to you? Say so. In search of a friendly opponent for a virtual video game date? Shout it out loud! (Or, you know, casually add it to your profile.)
But, do be mindful of how you come across. It’s easy to fall into the trap of being negative on your profile, and sass like, “If you smoke, swipe left,” isn’t attractive. Instead, focus on what you are looking for. An alternative to the smoking comment could be, “I appreciate when my date…values a healthy lifestyle 🍎.”
4. Give them a chuckle
It’s no shock that “makes me laugh” is one of both men and women’s most-asked-for qualities in a date on CMB.
But your job isn’t to make everyone laugh — it’s just to put a smile on the person that’s right for you. So, don’t worry if you aren’t a comedian, or if your knock-knock jokes are a little — or a lot — rusty. Just be yourself and don’t be afraid to get playful or show some wit when you write your profile.
Not feeling it? That’s okay, just keep it light. Skip to tip number five ✋.
5. You’re awesome, be awesome
Sometimes it feels easier to write something generic or even nothing at all because you don’t want to look like you’re “trying too hard,” or perhaps you’re afraid of rejection. I’ve been there.
Rejection hurts, so you try to mold yourself into the person that everyone will like. But by pretending to be someone that everyone likes, you won’t stand out to that person who’s really right for you.
So be authentic. Be vulnerable. Be you. Not a lot of people are brave enough to do that, so you’ll stand out like an everything bagel in a row of plain ones.
Bonus: Give your grammar a check-up
You don’t need a solid viewpoint on the Oxford comma (because let’s face it — everyone already knows it is the way of truth 😉), but for the love of all that’s good in the world, use spell check. Even better, have a friend review your profile for mistakes. You may think grammar is no big deal, but even a small typo could make you come across as careless. And you’re awesome, remember?
Edit Your Profile Details
So, you’ve got all of your profile pro tips in your noggin. Now what? It’s time to jazz up your profile to show off the true you.
To edit your profile on Coffee Meets Bagel, just tap your “profile” icon. On iOS, tap “View and edit your profile,” and then “Edit” in the top right corner. On Android, tap on the pencil icon in the bottom right corner. Here, you can switch between your photos, details, and preferences. Today, make sure you give extra attention to your details.
Deciding what to write on your dating profile, and even how to say it, is tough. But with these five tips (and maybe a burrito to get your brain working), I think you’re going to do great.
Ready to get your wordsmith on? If you haven’t already, download Coffee Meets Bagel on Android or iOS.