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Online Daters’ First-Date Expectations Are Surprisingly Traditional, Poll Shows

In an age when dating is more synonymous with eggplant emojis than candle-lit eggplant parmesan, one might expect singles’ first-date expectations to be equally contemporary. It’s no surprise, then, that 52% of surveyed CMB singles said they Google their match before a first date. But beyond digging up a date’s digital footprint, our polled singles revealed that much of their IRL first-date expectations were remarkably traditional — just take a look at what some CMB singles said in our 2019 poll.

First Date Statistics

1. Who Should Pay on the First Date? 52% Say ‘Men’

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While going Dutch is expected from about 31% of polled CMB singles, 52% of daters said men should foot the bill.

We heard similar feedback when we posted first date advice on Instagram, which included a controversial tip: Split the bill. Over 400 people responded on IG, many who argued that splitting the bill was poor advice. (Side note: “Don’t blame your farts on your date,” however, seemed to be agreed upon by all.)

Seventeen percent polled said that whoever asked the other person out should pay. And, less than 1% of those polled said women should pay on the first date.

2. 43% of Singles Talk on the Phone Before a First Date

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If you’re a smooth talker, but your text messages read like text-to-speech from the 90s, we have good news for you: chatting on the phone before a first date is more common than you think. In fact, 43% call before a first date.

If you’re an introvert, you’re probably thinking, “WHY?” Joanna Coles, former Cosmo editor and author of “Love Rules,” told Marie Claire:

“The advantage is you get to hear someone else’s voice. You find out whether or not you can have a fluid conversation or if it’s stilted and peculiar. You can tell if someone is smart, if they’re dozy. Whether or not they’re a show-off. It’s important to know those things before you go and meet someone in the flesh because ultimately your time is at stake here.”

3. 89% of Singles Follow Up After a Good First Date

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The term “ghosting” popped up around 2011, but the concept is as old as time. While around 56% of singles said they’ve never ghosted anyone after a first date, about 44% say they have — and only about 20% of ghosts feel any remorse for it.

But while ghosting is real (and really hurts), there’s still a bright side: after a good first date, 89% of singles follow up by the next day, whether by texting after a first date or calling. Some surveyed still expect men to be the ones to reach out, but a majority say it’s fine for either party to follow up.

4. 54% Would Go on a First Date on Valentine’s Day

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With hashtags like #GalentinesDay and #Treatyourself trending last Valentine’s Day, many brands are shying away from the traditional cliches of romance. Instead, they’re using February 14th to promote self-love.

We l-o-v-e this, but even still, having a plus-one on Valentine’s Day is at the top of most singles’ lists. In fact, 54% of CMB singles reported they’d be down for a first date on V-Day. (Bagels, that means it’s perfect time to ask your match out!)

Our poll also showed that conversation, timeliness, and thoughtful date planning (e.g. made a reservation) were the most important factors for making a good first impression on a first date. “Receiving a gift (i.e. flowers or chocolates)” got only 11% of the vote, so it’s OK if you forget the Forget Me Nots. 

5. 37% Polled Agree Men Should Ask Women Out

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When asked who should ask who out on a first date, 37% percent said men should do the talking, while 58% replied a cool, “Either.” And while dating apps like Bumble say women should make the first move, our first date statistics showed that only 5% of pollers agreed women should be the first to ask. As for Coffee Meets Bagel? We’re just pro-Bagels-asking-Bagels-out.

If you’re looking to hit it off with your match (and land a date), Co-Founder and -CEO of CMB Dawoon Kang advised telling a joke or commenting on a specific part of someone’s profile. See her full answer in Dawoon’s Reddit AMA round-up.

Like oat milk lattes and iPhones without home buttons, online dating is the new normal. But, our CMB first date statistics show that many singles still have traditional values. What do you think about first dates? Should you split the bill? Should men ask women out? Let us know in the comments.

 


Whether your first-date expectations are modern or more traditional, you can meet people who spark your heart on Coffee Meets Bagel.

Cuffing Season: A Survey on Romance, Seasonal Dates, and Body Warmth


When the cooler months start tiptoeing in, when Katy Perry’s “California Gurls” is played on the radio just
a little bit less, a lesser-known phenomenon begins to spread.

For some, it starts with an innate longing to steal someone else’s sweater that smells like Abercrombie cologne. For others, it’s a desperate desire to tell Grandma between “Pass the turkey,” and “Mashed potatoes, please,” that, “I AM DATING SOMEONE!”

In fact, there’s a name for the idea that singles tend to couple up in the colder months – Cuffing Season.

And with Cuffing Season upon us, Coffee Meets Bagel surveyed 2,026 of our members to find out more about how singles feel about the phenomenon. Peek at our infographic for the juicy details.




The lesson from our Cuffing Season data? Having a partner has a lot of perks during the colder months: romance, seasonal dates, holiday plus-one’s, and, most important to those surveyed…warmth.


While we love the idea of warming up with a plus-one, it’s easy to lose sight of the bigger picture. We advocate looking for a partner when you feel ready, not because you feel pressured by friends, family, or the changing seasons. (Unless the season and your readiness coincide – then, cuff away!)
Until then, we suggest a good sweater.

Singles & Valentine’s Day

February 14th is upon us! What are singles doing for Valentine’s Day this year? We surveyed over 650 CMBers around the world to determine the latest dating trends and stats around the holiday synonymous with love, and here’s what we found…
CMB Valentine's Day 2018

This is why right now is the best time to be on a dating app!

We surveyed 800 CMB members across the United States about how this time of the year is impacting their dating lives…and turns out right now is the BEST time to be on a dating app!
CMB: This is why RIGHT NOW is the best time to be on a dating app!

CMB Year in Review: Farewell 2017, Hello 2018! [Asia]

Happy New Year, Bagels! We hope you rang in the New Year in style (…and maybe even with a Bagel…), but before we get ahead of ourselves let’s bid one last farewell to 2017 by looking back at what happened on CMB!

We crunched some numbers to find out which cities took the crown for most LIKED to most ACTIVE in 2017, and here’s what we found:

CMB 2017: Year in Review Asia

We also took an even closer look at some of our top cities in the Asia! Find out how many introductions were made and messages sent in each city here:

Hong Kong | Singapore 

Cheers, Bagels! Let’s make 2018 a year to remember ;)

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CMB Year in Review: Farewell 2017, Hello 2018!

Happy New Year, Bagels! We hope you rang in the New Year in style (…and maybe even with a Bagel…), but before we get ahead of ourselves let’s bid one last farewell to 2017 by looking back at what happened on CMB!
We crunched some numbers to find out which cities took the crown for most LIKED to most ACTIVE in 2017, and here’s what we found:
CMB 2017: United States
We also took an even closer look at some of our top cities in the US! Find out how many introductions were made and messages sent in each city here:
San Francisco | New York | Los Angeles | Boston | Washington D.C. | Chicago
Cheers, Bagels! Let’s make 2018 a year to remember ;)

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Which top MBA schools have the most desirable singles? Coffee Meets Bagel has the answers.

With classes back in session, let’s get right to it! MBAers – who has the hottest singles on campus? The most picky?
Our Chief Data Scientist sifted through over hundreds of thousands of matches made on Coffee Meets Bagel among some of the top grad schools in the country to determine who are the “Most Liked” singles. *drum roll please* Here are the results…
CMB: MBA Collegiate Dating Trends 2017

About Coffee Meets Bagel: Coffee Meets Bagel is a dating app designed with women in mind. Founded by 3 sisters in 2012 in NYC, Coffee Meets Bagel aims to deliver a fun, safe, and quality dating experience that results in meaningful relationships. It’s free to download in the App Store & Google Play Store.
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Collegiate Dating Trends in the United Kingdom

There are many top-ranked colleges in the United Kingdom, but how do they stack up when it comes to the dating scene?
We analyzed more than 15,000 profiles of singles from some of the top colleges in UK to uncover which schools have the most attractive, the pickiest, the most assertive, the chattiest singles and more!
The complete UK rankings can be found below!

Bagels Tell All

March is Women’s History Month, so we’re celebrating women all month at CMB! We wanted to give women a chance to speak up and make their voices heard. We surveyed 250 women to find out what they look for when using dating apps. They shared their thoughts on what kind of profiles they like, what gets them chatting, what turns them off, and more. Take a look at what they had to say—and maybe take a few pointers, too!

Bagels Tell All - Coffee Meets Bagel

How politics are changing the way we date

Politics have been a hot topic since November’s election. We were curious how current political events are impacting singles’ dating lives, if at all.
On February 1st, 2017, we polled 1,320 Coffee Meets Bagel members across the United States and asked: Are politics affecting your dating life?
Here’s what we found…
Are politics impacting your dating life? The majority of singles said yes, particularly Democrats.
A whopping 70% of singles who identified themselves as Democrats said politics are impacting their dating lives  “slightly” to “profoundly,” alongside 55% of Independent singles, and 43% of Republican singles.


Among those who said their dating lives are impacted, 82% of Democrats, 66% of Independents, and 66% of Republicans said, “It’s more important that my matches’ political views are similar to mine.” 40% of Democrats, 34% of Independents, and 22% of Republicans said, “It’s more important for me to talk about politics early on in the date.”
Some singles explained why sharing similar political views has become more important.

“I hugely appreciate having great conversations with someone with slightly differing viewpoints…but I’m finding lately that when just meeting someone and getting to know them, political differences are borderline exhausting and deal breaking.”

Some cited politics becoming more personal recently as a reason why it’s become more important.

“Politics are becoming more personal; ‘How are you coping?’ is a normal question now.”

For those singles who reported that politics are not impacting their dating lives, 34% said love and politics should be kept separate, 32% said they are not that political, and 24% said politics don’t matter when it comes to love. Many cited the fact that they “can accept difference of opinion and value that in others” as the reason why politics have had little influence on their dating lives. Some even said,

“Politics are a subject that nowadays, especially in the US, are a must to talk, however a difference in opinion should never impact the success of a relationship.”


How are politics impacting your dating life?
About Coffee Meets Bagel: Coffee Meets Bagel is a dating app designed with women in mind. Founded by 3 sisters in 2012 in NYC, Coffee Meets Bagel aims to deliver a fun, safe, and quality dating experience that results in meaningful relationships. It’s free to download in the App Store & Google Play Store.
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