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Talking about money with someone new has been taboo for too long. We believe every dater should be able to talk about the things that matter most with someone new, and how you manage your finances definitely falls under that category.
So, to better understand how daters feel when it comes to talking about money with their dates, we teamed up with Syfe, Singapore’s leading digital investment platform, to go straight to the source. And you know what? Turns out that money does matter.
In our Love Meets Money survey, we learned that 92% of Singaporeans agree that the ability to manage money is an attractive quality for a long-term partner. And that’s not all. Let’s take a deeper dive into how daters navigate the tricky topic.
Handling the bill on a first date
The discussion about who should pay on a first date has always been a hot-button topic. But based on our survey results, daters might be more aligned than previously thought. For both men and women in Singapore, 2 in 5 think that men should pay, and 1 in 3 think you should just split the bill.
And it turns out traditional beliefs are still going strong, seeing as how less than 1% of Singaporeans think the woman should pay on the first date.
Now, what happens if you offer to cover the bill and your date doesn’t object? Over half of the women surveyed said they’d be offended, whereas only 24% of men expect their date to offer to split in this scenario.
Our take? It’s best to just be both polite and upfront about the bill to avoid awkward exchanges or grudge-holding. For example, offer to pay your own way, but thank them if they insist on paying.
Talking about finances: How soon is too soon?
While we do think it’s important to talk about the things that matter early on, it’s not really a surprise that a lot of our survey participants said bringing up money on a first date is a big turnoff.
Although, this does vary with age: More than half of Singaporeans over 35 think money talk is off-limits for the first date, but only 40% under 35 feel the same way. Maybe talking about money isn’t quite so taboo as it used to be.
Regardless of whether you think finances are appropriate first-date material, most of our survey participants agree you can’t ignore it forever. So when can you bring it up? We’re a little divided, with 32% saying you should have the talk before you define the relationship, and 31% saying it’s OK to wait until you’re already in a serious relationship.
But if you want to hold off until you’ve moved in together or are getting married? Well, a whopping 98% think by that point, it’s too late.
How money matters in a relationship
So, why does talking about money even matter to daters? It turns out that careers play a part. Which makes sense, if you want to be with someone who you’re not only compatible with, but who you can build a stable life with, too.
While talking about money on a first date isn’t really all that sexy, 1 in 3 Singaporeans said they’d be open to discussing salaries in particular within just five dates. And in the same vein, 44% think it’s necessary to get into that topic before you make things official.
The survey also found that women take careers into consideration when picking a potential partner. When it comes to ranking criteria that matter most for a relationship, career came in second place for women, while it didn’t crack the top three for men.
But while Singaporean men and women might disagree on the career ranking, one thing they did agree on? Values are the most important thing to look at when deciding if someone is the right fit for you. And we couldn’t agree more.
The importance of aligning on the big things
We know, talking about money can be awkward and weird and maybe even feel a little intrusive. But it doesn’t have to be! Whether we like it or not, money plays a big role in our lives. And we believe that daters should be able to talk about those big things if they want to build a trusting, lasting relationship. If you’re stuck here’s a few tips to remember:
👉 Do acknowledge the weirdness. Talking about money isn’t easy for everyone. Let them know if you’re nervous, and try to remember this is just a chat and not some battle.
👉 Don’t shame them. Try to remember that not everyone will have the same financial literacy or money-management skills – but we can all learn.
👉 Do consider their situation. Remember that wanting to split costs doesn’t mean they don’t like you, they just might not have the same finances as you.
👉 Don’t ambush them. Give some notice to see if they’re open to talking. For example, “If we’re moving in together I think we should start thinking about a monthly budget. Thoughts?”
So go ahead, have the hard conversations. Make sure you’re on the same page, whether it comes to something as small as splitting the bill, or something as big as making investment plans for your future selves.
But maybe just save the hard-hitting talks for the third or fourth date.
When you’re dating someone new and it feels right, it makes sense to start wondering about the next steps. Should I introduce them to my family? Will they love my dog? When are we going to have sex?
If that last question made you pause, you’re not alone. Talking about sex pretty much everywhere has a reputation for being uncomfortable or even taboo. This is especially true for singles in Singapore.
But we don’t think that has to be the status quo anymore. So, we got together with Durex to tackle the topic and give Singaporeans the tools they need to speak up about sex.
Spoiler alert, talking about sex is tough
To kick off our campaign with Durex, we asked daters in Singapore for their thoughts around talking about sex. Right away, we realized that plenty of people actually want to talk about it…but just aren’t.
It turns out that asking if your date wants to have sex isn’t really the hard part. Only 26% of daters said that’s where they get tripped up. But more than half of singles said the No. 1 thing they have trouble talking about is health and safety, like STD history or latest test date.
There was also a difference between men and women when it comes to bringing up sexual health with someone new.
These numbers show that women in Singapore might be bearing more of the burden around safe sex practices. And that burden is even more difficult if you and your partner aren’t actually talking about it.
What’s stopping daters from talking about sex?
When asked why they aren’t bringing up sex with their dates, 40% of daters said the same thing: it’s super uncomfortable.
Societal expectations play a major role here when we break down why talking about sex is uncomfortable in the first place. The No. 1 reason daters don’t feel like it’s OK to talk about sex with someone new? They don’t want to seem too forward or promiscuous.
One other reason stood out when daters shared why they aren’t talking about sex: 42% of women don’t feel comfortable talking about it because they just aren’t interested in sex before marriage, while only 19% of men felt this way.
How we can normalize talking about sex
We know dating is already complicated enough. And talking about something as awkward as sex adds an extra layer of worry. So, we figured the best thing to do was to be as forward as possible, and sat down with some daters to have them answer questions about sex together.
Daters in Singapore sit down together to answer questions about sex and dating.
Here’s the simple truth: You can’t have an honest, lasting relationship without good communication. And your sex life is included in that, too. If you want to know something about your date, like where they grew up or what their plans are for the future, you’d ask them. The same should go for questions around sex.
And even if you’re not interested in pre-marital sex, that doesn’t mean you should skip the conversation. It’s important that you share your plans with your dates and encourage them to do the same in return. That way, you can both make informed decisions about whether your wants and needs are compatible.
So that’s why we’re here to give you the tools you need to confidently ask the questions. We asked daters what they struggle with most and want to learn more about – here’s what we got.
How do I bring up sex?
You want to talk about sex with your dates…but just have no clue where to start. We totally get that, it’s a whole new world for a lot of us. Here are some questions to get you started:
💜 Is sex something you’re interested in?
💜 What are you looking for in a sexual partner?
💜 At what point would you feel comfortable having sex?
💜 What are some boundaries you need to set before sex?
💜 If you’re sleeping with other people, have you been tested?
Obviously, you don’t have to ask every one of these questions like some sort of interview. Think of these questions as guidelines to feel out what matters most to you, and you can ask them when the time feels right.
How do I set boundaries in my sex life?
We all know boundaries are important for a healthy relationship. But what does a boundary even mean? They’re going to look different for everyone. Here’s a few guidelines to help you figure yours out.
Think about past experiences. What did you like, what didn’t you like? Use those to figure out what you’d like your date to know now.
Get comfortable saying no. If you’re not down to have sex until a certain time or don’t want to try something they’re into, speak up. And if your date can’t respect those boundaries, it’s a sign to move on.
Write it down. Try filling out a yes/no/maybe worksheet to figure out what you’re both into. Writing things down and reading responses on your own time takes away some of that awkwardness that comes with talking in person.
Talk safety. Test dates, condom use, STD history, all that. And remember, safewords aren’t just for BDSM relationships. They work any time you need to quickly express when something isn’t right.
How do I build intimacy through sex?
OK, now you know the importance of talking about sex and you can cover the basics. Let’s build on that to make your relationship and sex life even better.
Start outside the bedroom. No, not like what you’re thinking. Ditch the small talk and work on opening up outside of your sex life, instead. That way you’ll feel more comfortable being real about what you like sexually.
Talk about your definitions. To you, sex might mean one thing. But to the person you’re seeing, it might look a little different. If you two aren’t on the same page, it might lead to a misunderstanding or unmet expectations.
Be explicit. Be clear about what you like and don’t like. If you’re just going through the motions with each other, chances are you’re not having the best sex you could be having. It can be as simple as “Hey, that whole leg move we did? I definitely cramped up. Let’s not do that again.”
Discover your fantasies. Once you’ve got that whole using-your-words thing down, move on from basic boundaries to sexual fantasies. You might feel silly, and maybe you’ll laugh or fumble while trying it out, but letting your partner try something new with you is super intimate.
Be prepared. Let’s be real, nothing kills a mood faster than not having peace of mind. Make sure you’ve got what you need, like condoms, beforehand. That way, it’s less worrying and more focusing on each other.
Where we can go from here
Listen, sex isn’t an easy topic, and we’re not all going to suddenly become experts who never fumble their way through a tough conversation. But we have to start somewhere if we want to make talking about sex our new normal.
If you want to learn more dating advice like this, be sure to check out our Instagram. We can get better at building lasting, stronger relationships together.
February 14 is upon us, and you know what that means: National Ferris Wheel Day!
Just kidding. Well, not totally kidding because February 14 is actually National Ferris Wheel Day (if the internet is to be believed). But you know we’re really here to talk about Valentine’s Day – and particularly, how it affects daters on Coffee Meets Bagel.
Historically, Dating Sunday – the first Sunday of the new year – has reigned supreme as the ultimate day for online dating, with daters matching and chatting left and right. But here’s the plot twist: While Dating Sunday may have the most activity, Coffee Meets Bagel actually sees the most user sign-ups on Valentine’s Day.
After discovering that little tidbit, we did some more digging around last year’s February 14. Here’s what we found about the day of love on CMB.
New Daters in Search of a CMB Valentine
On Valentine’s Day 2019, there was a 63% spike in new user sign-ups compared to the previous 30 days. Put that next to Dating Sunday’s 61% increase in 2019, and it looks like Valentine’s Day takes the heart-shaped cake for new user sign-ups!
Our data shows that these daters are getting an early jump on the holiday, with sign-ups peaking in the early hours of the morning. And we mean really early: The most popular time to sign up is between 2-3 a.m. ESTon Valentine’s Day.
Pro-tip: With the flood of new CMB’ers looking to match, you’ll want to make sure you stand out. Profiles with details filled out are 50% more liked than those with missing details, so do a quick review to make sure you’re putting your best foot (and photos) forward.
On V-Day, You’re More Likely to Match
For bagels hoping to see an uptick in their number of matches, Valentine’s Day could give you the results you’re looking for. That’s because daters are 24% more likely to match on this Valentine’s Day compared to the previous year.
And if the day is winding down but you’re not seeing the matches you expected, don’t give up hope yet: We see the most matches between 11-11:59 p.m. EST.
Pro-tip: When those matches do start rolling in, don’t wait to strike up a convo. It’s best to strike while the iron (or should we say bagel) is hot. Chats started on Coffee Meets Bagel within three hours of matching are 52% more likely to get a response!
Bagels Are Feeling Extra Chatty February 14
Ready to get your wordsmith on? We sure hope so because Coffee Meets Bagel daters are 14% more likely to chat on Valentine’s Day, compared to the previous year.
And not only are they feeling more sociable, it looks like bagels are getting right to it and kicking V-Day off with some stimulating conversation. Coffee Meets Bagel daters are the chattiest between 10-11 a.m. EST, so make sure you have your morning coffee.
Pro-tip: We found that when someone leads with a question, the response rate increases by over 20%! Dig deep into your reservoir of icebreakers to snag your match’s attention instead of sending the simple “Hey, how are you?”
Bonus: New Feature Highlights Your ‘Most Likely to Match’
Valentine’s Day is already looking to be a hit on Coffee Meets Bagel, but we wanted to sweeten the deal. As you join the flurry of holiday activity, keep an eye out for a new feature we’re rolling out: Most Likely to Match.
While all of your suggested bagels are tailored to your preferences and picked just for you (thanks to our wicked smart algorithms), you may occasionally stumble upon a bagel with the label “Most Likely to Match” on the top of their profile.
What does that mean exactly? It means that, based on your preferences and behaviors on the app, we think you and this bagel could really hit it off. The shiny Pokemon of bagels, if you will.
And what exactly makes these potential matches so special? We’ve found that you’re 5x more likely to connect with “Most Likely to Match” bagels. In addition, these specially labeled potentials are likely to spend up to 3x longer viewing your profile than the average suggested bagel.
So whether you’re heading into February 14 with dreams of a potential partner (or ferris wheels, that’s cool, too), Coffee Meets Bagel is the place to meet someone special – and maybe snag a great date while you’re at it.
To meet someone special this Valentine’s Day, download Coffee Meets Bagel to text yourself a link. Or, download CMB directly from your phone: iOS | Android
In an age when dating is more synonymous with eggplant emojis than candle-lit eggplant parmesan, one might expect singles’ first-date expectations to be equally contemporary. It’s no surprise, then, that 52% of surveyed CMB singles said they Google their match before a first date. But beyond digging up a date’s digital footprint, our polled singles revealed that much of their IRL first-date expectations were remarkably traditional — just take a look at what some CMB singles said in our 2019 poll.
First Date Statistics
1. Who Should Pay on the First Date? 52% Say ‘Men’
While going Dutch is expected from about 31% of polled CMB singles, 52% of daters said men should foot the bill.
We heard similar feedback when we posted first date advice on Instagram, which included a controversial tip: Split the bill. Over 400 people responded on IG, many who argued that splitting the bill was poor advice. (Side note: “Don’t blame your farts on your date,” however, seemed to be agreed upon by all.)
Seventeen percent polled said that whoever asked the other person out should pay. And, less than 1% of those polled said women should pay on the first date.
2. 43% of Singles Talk on the Phone Before a First Date
If you’re a smooth talker, but your text messages read like text-to-speech from the 90s, we have good news for you: chatting on the phone before a first date is more common than you think. In fact, 43% call before a first date. If you’re an introvert, you’re probably thinking, “WHY?” Joanna Coles, former Cosmo editor and author of “Love Rules,” told Marie Claire:
“The advantage is you get to hear someone else’s voice. You find out whether or not you can have a fluid conversation or if it’s stilted and peculiar. You can tell if someone is smart, if they’re dozy. Whether or not they’re a show-off. It’s important to know those things before you go and meet someone in the flesh because ultimately your time is at stake here.”
3. 89% of Singles Follow Up After a Good First Date
The term “ghosting” popped up around 2011, but the concept is as old as time. While around 56% of singles said they’ve never ghosted anyone after a first date, about 44% say they have — and only about 20% of ghosts feel any remorse for it. But while ghosting is real (and really hurts), there’s still a bright side: after a good first date, 89% of singles follow up by the next day, whether by texting after a first date or calling. Some surveyed still expect men to be the ones to reach out, but a majority say it’s fine for either party to follow up.
4. 54% Would Go on a First Date on Valentine’s Day
With hashtags like #GalentinesDay and #Treatyourself trending last Valentine’s Day, many brands are shying away from the traditional cliches of romance. Instead, they’re using February 14th to promote self-love. We l-o-v-e this, but even still, having a plus-one on Valentine’s Day is at the top of most singles’ lists. In fact, 54% of CMB singles reported they’d be down for a first date on V-Day. (Bagels, that means it’s perfect time to ask your match out!) Our poll also showed that conversation, timeliness, and thoughtful date planning (e.g. made a reservation) were the most important factors for making a good first impression on a first date. “Receiving a gift (i.e. flowers or chocolates)” got only 11% of the vote, so it’s OK if you forget the Forget Me Nots.
5. 37% Polled Agree Men Should Ask Women Out
When asked who should ask who out on a first date, 37% percent said men should do the talking, while 58% replied a cool, “Either.” And while dating apps like Bumble say women should make the first move, our first date statistics showed that only 5% of pollers agreed women should be the first to ask. As for Coffee Meets Bagel? We’re just pro-Bagels-asking-Bagels-out.
If you’re looking to hit it off with your match (and land a date), Co-Founder and -CEO of CMB Dawoon Kang advised telling a joke or commenting on a specific part of someone’s profile. See her full answer in Dawoon’s Reddit AMA round-up.
Like oat milk lattes and iPhones without home buttons, online dating is the new normal. But, our CMB first date statistics show that many singles still have traditional values. What do you think about first dates? Should you split the bill? Should men ask women out? Let us know in the comments.
If your 2019 resolutions include “Meet new people,” “Fall in love,” or “Use cute bagel stickers more often,” you’re going to want to save a New Year’s party popper for this.
Dating Sunday, Jan. 6, 2019, will be one of the best days to use Coffee Meets Bagel.
So, how do we know this?
Historically, the first Sunday after the new year has long been the most popular day for the best dating apps. But because we’re a little data-crazy, we took a peek into our past and found that this was especially true for Coffee Meets Bagel in 2018. (Oh hey, that’s us.)
Here’s a few insights into last year’s Dating Sunday. And, why we think this year’s January 6 will be the best time to be a Bagel.
1. It’s Prime Time for Meeting New People
Sure, cuffing season is a time when a lot singles couple-up for the chillier months. But on Dating Sunday in 2018, there was a 75 percent spike in new-user signups, compared to the previous 30 days. That’s a big deal.
For 2019, we think this means you’ll have a better chance of matching with more people, including those you can find nearby in Discover, on Dating Sunday. In fact, the most popular time to sign up is 11:30 p.m. EST.
Pro-tip: Afraid competition will be fierce? Don’t let your profile get stale. Review your profile and photos to ensure best dating apps practices, like having at least three pictures.
2. You’re More Likely to Make a Match
If you find yourself Liking more than getting Liked on dating apps, you’ll have a better chance on Dating Sunday. That’s because we predict you’ll be 17 percent more likely to match on the special day, compared to the prior 30 days.
Additionally, we predict a 26 percent chance of bagels and partly-cloudy skies. Just kidding, but we do predict an overall 26 percent increase in activity compared to the previous week.
3. Daters Are Happy to Get Chatty
Coffee Meets Bagel community members will be 16 percent more likely to chat with their matches on Jan. 6, 2019, compared to the previous week in December. In fact, you may want to save some of your night-owl energy from the New Year. Daters will be most chatty on Coffee Meets Bagel between midnight and 1 a.m. local time right at the start of Dating Sunday.
And with CMB’s new feature that lets you send a message with your Like, you’re bound to see even better results than our data predicts from 2018.
Pro-tip: If you’re still editing your dating resolutions for 2019, practice saying “‘Yes” to more first dates, as suggested by Elite Daily. Even better: don’t be afraid while chatting to make the first move and ask your matches out on first dates!
4. On CMB, It’s More Like Dating January
Like most of the best dating apps, Coffee Meets Bagel does see big increases in activity and sign-ups during Dating Sunday. However, the entire first week of January is an ideal time to connect.
And if you live in a big city, like Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York City, or Chicago, you may see even more of a spike in activity on the app during the whole month.
New Year, New You?
Many people around the new year like to say, “New year, new you.” But we think current you is pretty fantastic already. When creating or editing your 2019 resolutions, we suggest keeping emotional health in mind, and making subtasks that make your resolutions actionable.
Whether your resolutions include, “Fall in love,” “Make new friends,” or simply, “Meet new people,” logging on to CMB on Dating Sunday is the perfect subtask to start.
Join one of the best dating apps for meaningful connections. Download Coffee Meets Bagel for iPhone or Android.
It’s 2019, and a recruiter stumbles upon your LinkedIn. You have a blurry picture of yourself holding up your cat like Simba in “The Lion King,” and your profile says something about being a 2015 Flip Cup Champion, #LetsGetThisBread.
This same approach on Instagram may have earned you thousands of followers. But, let’s just say…you’re not getting the job today.
Just like social media sites have best practices unique to their platform, so do the top dating apps.
Whether you’re looking for a quick hook-up on Tinder, or someone who sparks your heart on Coffee Meets Bagel, you can rock the 2019 dating space by making sure you’re sharing your best self in the new year. Here’s how to start.
1. Start With Self-Reflection
None of the top dating apps, even Coffee Meets Bagel, can help you find the “right” match if you’re unsure of what you’re looking for. In fact, “We end up wasting a ton of time on the wrong people because we don’t know what we want,” says CMB Co-Founder Dawoon Kang.
Put It on Paper
To succeed from the start, try the following exercise: Beginning with a blank sheet of paper, write down what you think an amazing relationship would look like. Be as descriptive as possible. For example, you could write, “My partner would do house chores equally, and we’d take turns making healthy dinners.” Or, “We’d try something new every quarter.”
From this list, you can then pick out qualities you think are most important for your partner to have. Then, Dawoon suggests, “Strive to become this person,” because we often attract those we are most like.
Make Your Intentions Clear
If you feel comfortable, the most effective way to find a partner who has these qualities is to be transparent by listing them on your profile. That’s because the key to finding the right person for you and your life stage isn’t getting as many Likes as possible; It’s about getting that one right Like.
2. Dating Profile Photos: Have 3 or More
Did you know that you could increase your chances of being Liked on Coffee Meets Bagel by 31 percent by uploading at least three photos? But, don’t upload just any pictures to meet the magic number. One on-point photo is still better than three snapshots of last night’s dinner.
The first photo you upload is especially important, so make sure it’s a face-forward shot of you, preferably smiling. Shielding your eyes from harmful UV rays is cool and all, but keep the sunglasses off for pictures. Same goes for hats. Check out a few of our other dating profile secrets for putting your best face forward:
Profile Photo Do’s
Upload a picture of you loving your hobbies, whether they include rock-climbing or playing with puppies at animal shelters.
Speaking of puppies, selfies with your pets are a definite “Do.”
Include tasteful full-body shots, like posing in nature.
Don’t be a catfish: Use recent images. We promise, the current you is fantastic.
Profile Photo Don’ts
Don’t upload blurry photos, including mirror selfies (especially if your Windex game is weak).
Try not to get lost in a crowd! Group photos are great for tagging friends on Facebook, but they can confuse potential matches. Is she the cute girl on the left, or the aging grandfather in the background?
Writing a profile on any of the top dating apps can be intimidating. How do you sum up your personality by answering just a few questions? The best advice: Be uniquely you. And, don’t be afraid to get specific.
While being short and to-the-point is awesome for Twitter, that isn’t the case for Coffee Meets Bagel. In fact, when we analyzed profiles of successful CMB couples (those who found someone via CMB) vs. CMB singles, the only difference we found was profile length! The top 10 percent of Liked profiles on CMB were 35 percent longer than others.
How Can I Add Length to My Dating Profile?
Profile descriptions like, “I’m adventurous,” or, “I like music,” don’t feel like they belong to a real person. Instead, be more specific, like, “I love trying out new foods at the local farmer’s market,” or, “I’m always down to go to local music shows! Lately, I’m really into indie-rock band Alexander & the Grapes.” You can see how, when you’re more specific, the length comes naturally.
An article on dating profiles in Marie Claire also advises to “keep your profile up to date” and to “Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.” Yes! We couldn’t agree more.
The point of making connections on Coffee Meets Bagel isn’t to catch ‘em all like Pokemon cards. (Plus, you’re already the very best!) It’s to get to know your matches and then meet in real life for a real date.
If you’re using top dating apps to meet real people for real dates, the best way to succeed is a long-hidden CMB secret…ask them out! OK, easier said than done. Here’s a few chat tips to spark meaningful conversation in 2019:
Ask a question. In a CMB study, we found out that when someone’ first text was a question, the response rate increased by over 20 percent — making response rates for men messaging women 75 percent and women messaging men 80 percent!
Sprinkle in some emojis. In the same study, we also found increased response rates when people used emojis in their texts.
Use CMB’s new feature that lets you send a message with your Like to hit it off from the get-go. In beta testing, members who used this feature with their potential matches had a 25 percent higher chance of getting Liked back.
5. Be Selfish
Finding the perfect partnership takes both patience and luck. Expect that you won’t find your “forever” right away, if that’s what you’re looking for. Until then, focus on yourself and the right person for you on your journey.
The “right” person for you right now might be someone who gives you butterflies, but that you aren’t ready to commit to long-term. That person might be someone you bond with over your undying love for Game of Thrones, but find you’re better off friends. That person could even be someone you meet only once at a cafe for coffee, but the conversation inspires you to try something new!
There is no wrong way to date, and every encounter can be meaningful in your journey.
Focus on the Journey
There are so many reasons why a date or a relationship might not be forever, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t a “success.” By reframing dating as path to personal growth, we can discover so many new things about ourselves and our world — without the pressure to accept less than what we deserve.
CMB’s Dawoon Kang recommends exploring your own interests through dates. That cocktail-making class you’ve been dying to try? Suggest it as a first date. Or, have your date suggest something you normally wouldn’t do to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Dawoon added the following:
Having someone to do something fun with on the weekend is important, too, but I believe ultimately that what makes love so powerful is its ability to help us grow, to make us better people. We can use dating as a catalyst for our self-growth in 2019. We may not end up with that ideal relationship by the end of the year. But, we will 100 percent end up with a more fulfilled life.
Join one of the top dating apps for getting that “right” Like. Download Coffee Meets Bagel for iPhone or Android.
If you find yourself Liking more than getting Liked on dating apps, you’ll have a better chance on Dating Sunday. That’s because we predict you’ll be 17 percent more likely to match on the special day, compared to the prior 30 days.
Coffee Meets Bagel community members will be 16 percent more likely to chat with their matches on Jan. 6, 2019, compared to the previous week in December. In fact, you may want to save some of your night-owl energy from the New Year. Daters will be most chatty on Coffee Meets Bagel between midnight and 1 a.m. local time right at the start of Dating Sunday.
Like most of the best dating apps, Coffee Meets Bagel does see big increases in activity and sign-ups during Dating Sunday. However, the entire first week of January is an ideal time to connect.
