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15 AAPI-owned spots to support on your next date

May 23, 2022/in Blog, Date Ideas, LA, NYC, SF /by CMB

May is here and brings us Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month. A time to celebrate diverse cultures, support our communities, and honor the contributions of Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders that have shaped who we are today. And as a company founded by three Korean sisters looking to shake up both the dating and entrepreneurial world, it holds a special place in our heart.

So in honor of AAPI Heritage Month, we’ve rounded up some AAPI-owned businesses in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles that you can check out on your next first date. Or third date or anniversary date, or just when you feel like getting something good.

San Francisco Bay Area

Sue’s Gallery Cafe

This mom-and-pop shop with coffee, tea, and pastries is the perfect spot for a casual coffee date. And bonus, you can browse their handmade ceramics while you’re at it.

Home Coffee Roasters

Owners Annie Cheng and In Hwan Heo know a thing or two about coffee dates, as they went on weekly ones together while dreaming of opening a shop of their own. Now, you and your date can follow in their footsteps.

FOB Kitchen

Visit this Oakland spot for delicious Filipino fare and island-inspired cocktails, brought to you by owner and chef Janice Dulce who grew up in the Bay Area and Guam and is now bringing recipes learned from her family to the public.

Cha-Ya

To our non-meat eaters, this one’s for you! Family-owned and operated in San Francisco’s Mission District, this is a great spot if you’re in the mood for Japanese cuisine that’s entirely vegan, too.

Dumpling House

Grab some Chinese bites, beer, and tea from this casual, family-owned spot – with a chef whose twenty-plus years of dim sum expertise hail from Beijing, Shanghai, and Hong Kong.

Los Angeles

B Sweet Dessert Bar

Looking for something less formal than dinner, but different from the standard coffee date? Grab something decadent, like their famous banana pudding, from this dessert bar owned and operated by Barb Batiste, who grew up baking sweets for her close-knit Filipino family.

Bopomofo Cafe

Serving Asian American cuisine, co-founders Philip Wang and Eric Wang turned to bo, po, mo, and fo, “the Chinese ABCs,” to come up with the name for their cafe. Stop by for tea, espresso, matcha, and plenty of shareables perfect for a date.

Broken Mouth

Did you know that in Hawaii, “broke da mout” is used by locals to describe food so good you don’t even have time to chew? Owner and Chef Tim Lee, Korean by blood and born and raised on Oahu, serves up homestyle Hawaiian food for Los Angeles. But if you’re on a first date, maybe try to chew a little.

Pine & Crane

Looking for a casual spot? Head over to this Taiwanese spot in Silver Lake for some staples like beef noodle soup and loose-leaf tea. Emphasis on casual, as it’s first come, first serve.

Maru Coffee

You can’t go wrong with a classic coffee date at this spot in the Arts District. The name comes from native Korean San Ma Ru, which means “mountaintop,” to symbolize their high-quality coffee, as the best beans come from high altitudes.

New York City

Kopitiam

Head to this Lower East Side spot, which means “coffee shop” in Hokkien, for a taste of Nyonya cuisine. Chef and owner Kyo Pang uses family recipes and traditions to introduce visitors to this blend of Chinese and Malay flavors.

Soft Swerve

In the mood for something sweet? Soft Swerve has two locations in NYC where you can cool off with Asian-inspired ice cream flavors like matcha and ube purple yam.

Ihawan

Take your date to try the best barbecue in town at this family-owned and operated Filipino spot in Woodside. You’ll find classic dishes from the Philippines, plus their specialty Kapampangan cuisine.

Pasteur Grill & Noodles

Looking for a spot in Chinatown? Head here for authentic Vietnamese food that’s the byproduct of generations’ worth of family recipes.

Té Company

If the casual coffee date isn’t your thing, how about tea instead? This intimate spot in the West Village has a wide variety of teas sourced from Taiwan, plus Taiwanese food to pair with it.

Let’s support our communities together

We know this list is far from complete, so don’t hesitate to branch out and find other AAPI-owned spots in your area, this May and beyond! And if you have locations in mind and want to share with others, head over to our Instagram post and drop it in the comments.

Hong Kong daters: Is your list holding you back?

December 3, 2021/in Blog /by CMB

From personality traits to physical appearances, we all have a dating checklist in our heads. And that’s totally OK! Standards for a relationship help ensure your needs are met. But if your expectations become unrealistic, is the list actually helping you find your person?

We sat down with daters in Hong Kong to see what they think. Here’s what we found out.

What’s on your list? 

Quick! Picture your perfect partner in your head – who do you see? Maybe a dark-haired hiking enthusiast. Or someone with strong eyebrows who loves the little things, like grocery shopping on Sundays.

If you have a clear image in your head, you’re not alone. The average dater in Hong Kong has a pretty long list for their future partners, coming in with over 20 must-haves and dealbreakers.

The daters’ responses revealed some not-so-surprising requirements. One in four Hong Kong daters makes their dating decisions based on someone’s occupation. And the little things are top of mind of a lot of daters, too, like fresh breath, gym selfies, and talking too loudly.

But added up, do all of these things really matter when it comes to finding something real?  

Time to ditch the list 

So, daters have a long list. But guess what else? We also found that 97% of Hong Kongers in relationships are with someone who’s different from what they were searching for.

Overall, one thing was clear at the end of the day. Across all demographics, Hong Kongers agreed that honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect are the most important qualities for a long and happy relationship.

So, remember: You’re totally allowed to have standards. We encourage you to, in fact! But it’s important to take a look at your dating list and determine what’s truly a dealbreaker, and what’s actually just a nice-to-have. And this is an ever-changing process because our wants and needs will change as we grow. As long as you’re honest with yourself and let go of little things holding you back, you’ll do great.

So, what do you think – ready to ditch your long list and find something real? With over 91% of CMB Daters looking for a serious relationship, you’ll be in good company at Coffee Meets Bagel. Download today to find your person.

Singapore daters: Is your list holding you back?

December 3, 2021/in Blog /by CMB

From personality traits to physical appearances, we all have a dating checklist in our heads. And that’s totally OK! Standards for a relationship help ensure your needs are met. But if your expectations become unrealistic, is the long list actually helping you find your person?

We sat down with daters in Singapore to see what they think. Here’s what we found out.

What’s on your dating list?

Quick! Picture your perfect partner in your head – who do you see? Maybe a dark-haired hiking enthusiast. Or someone with strong eyebrows who loves the little things, like grocery shopping on Sundays.

If you have a clear image in your head, you’re not alone. The average dater in Singapore has a pretty long list for their future partners, coming in with over 24 must-haves and dealbreakers.

The daters’ responses revealed some not-so-surprising requirements. One in five Singapore daters makes their dating decisions based on someone’s occupation. And the little things are top of mind of a lot of daters, too, like fresh breath, nail-biting, and even over-sharing on social media.

But do the little things really matter when it comes to finding something real?

Time to ditch the list 

So, daters have a long list of dealbreakers. But guess what else? We also found that 97% of Singaporeans in relationships are with someone who’s different from what they were searching for.

Overall, one thing was clear at the end of the day. Across all demographics, Singaporeans agreed that honesty, loyalty, and mutual respect are the most important qualities for a long and happy relationship.

So, remember: You’re totally allowed to have standards. We encourage you to, in fact! But it’s important to take a look at your dating list and determine what’s truly a dealbreaker, and what’s actually just a nice-to-have. And this is an ever-changing process because our wants and needs will change as we grow. As long as you’re honest with yourself and let go of little things holding you back, you’ll do great.

So, what do you think – ready to ditch your long list and find something real? With over 91% of CMB Daters looking for a serious relationship, you’ll be in good company at Coffee Meets Bagel. Download today to find your person.

How to spot the new crypto scam targeting online daters

October 15, 2021/in Blog, News, Tips /by CMB

Scams are nothing new. We’ve all heard the cautionary tale about emails from a “friend” asking for a loan while they wait for their enormous trust fund to kick in.

But the latest online dating scam is much more clever than a shady email. It also has a new angle: cryptocurrency investing. Known as the “Pig Butchering Scam,” it started in China but is now targeting dating sites all over the world. It’s become such a problem that the FBI recently sent out this warning. They’ve received over 1,800 complaints about this new scam in the first seven months of 2021 alone.

This scam can be harder to spot than others, but that doesn’t mean you have to feel unsafe while dating. Keep reading to learn the ins and outs of the Pig Butchering Scam, from what it looks like to how to avoid it.

How the new crypto scam works

Wonder why it’s called the Pig Butchering Scam? It’s because these scammers play the long game. First, they gain your trust, then they “lead you to the butcher.” Here’s how it goes down. 

After matching on a dating site, they’ll spend one to three months making you comfortable. They’re trained on how to act and have scripts for countless scenarios. So, everything feels real.

Next, they’ll suggest they can help you make a lot of money in cryptocurrency investment. Keep in mind, they won’t ask you directly for any money or your personal information. They might even encourage you to buy crypto from a legitimate exchange.

From there, you’ll be directed to a fake third-party website or app to start investing. The phony sites are top-notch, complete with “customer service.”

You’ll start to see a “profit” and they’ll even let you “withdraw” a small amount of money. This is a trick to further gain your trust. Once you’re feeling confident, the scammer will convince you to invest larger amounts. They’ll use phrases like “act fast” or shame you into feeling like you’re not giving enough.

But when you try to withdraw money again, the scammer or fake customer service representative won’t allow it. You’re told that fees or taxes are owed, or the minimum account balance hasn’t been met. The excuses continue until you realize it’s all a scam. At this point, the scammer vanishes – along with your invested money.

So far, large losses have been the norm. The Global Anti-Scam Organization, a volunteer group led by victims of this scam, found that the average loss was $98,000 and about 70 percent of victims were women, most with a bachelor’s degree.

Want an insider’s look into how it works? Check out this video from a fellow online dater who fell victim to the scam.

An online dater goes into detail about how they fell for the popular “Pig Butchering Scam”

Tips for spotting a scammer

So, what does an actor from the Pig Butchering Scam tend to look like? This list won’t match every person involved in the scheme, but here are some general guidelines:

✔️ Realistic profile names with an age range of 28-35 years old

✔️ Fluent in Chinese while also speaking in broken English (They might claim to use a translator)

✔️ Works as a business owner or a field such as finance, medical supplies, or sales

✔️ Studied finance or accounting and invests in crypto, forex, or gold as a hobby

✔️ Shares luxury-type pictures, including cars, jewelry, and handbags

So, this scam is less obvious than ones that ask you for your personal information or money upfront. But there are still some other warning signs that can help you spot a scammer.

They’re everything you’re looking for. The fake profiles show very good-looking men or women, who are also looking for a serious relationship. The conversation will always be flowing. They’ll send good morning and good night texts, selfies, pictures at local landmarks, even shots of their “homecooked dinners.” After a few weeks, they might start using pet names for you or even profess their love. If they get too lovey too quick, throw up a red flag.

Meeting up and video chats aren’t an option. They might use excuses about being too busy to meet in person, usually because of work. Or they’ll say they’re too shy to video chat, and might even pull on your heartstrings by citing a past bad relationship. But if you’ve been talking to someone for weeks and have yet to lay eyes on them, you should be cautious.

They talk a lot about money. Actors in this scam will present themselves as super-wealthy and will talk about spending thousands of dollars like it’s nothing. Reminder: Even if they don’t ask for your private information, any type of talk about your finances with someone you haven’t met is always a red flag.

You’re told about deals that are too good to be true. They’ll convince you that you can have what they have – all you have to do is try out their investment plan. “Trust me,” they’ll say, “My uncle is an expert in crypto and taught me everything they know!” Get rich fast schemes are almost always just that – schemes.

Got scammed? What to do next

Remember, scammers are opportunists and online daters a prime target for their shady schemes. You download a dating app with dreams of opening up and finding your person – and scammers look to take advantage of that vulnerability.

So if you find yourself a victim of a scam, try not to judge yourself. You did something brave by putting yourself out there. The blame is entirely on the scammer.

Now, check out this article on our Help Desk for steps you can take if you need direction after being scammed.

How CMB finds and blocks scammers

Dating should never feel scary – at least not for reasons like this. That’s why we’re working overtime to keep our community safe from scammers.

We use AI programs dedicated to sorting out scammers. Plus, we have an Approval Team that reviews new profiles and checks photos and schools for apparent fakes. If someone happens to get through this system and creates a profile, then we rely on savvy daters like you to be another line of defense.

If you think you’ve come across or matched with a scammer, please report them immediately. By reporting a scammer, you’re preventing them from taking advantage of someone else in the future. And don’t worry – reporting is totally anonymous.

Once reported, we investigate, then ban the profile if appropriate. We’ll then alert our Approval Team not to approve anyone with that user’s information or photos moving forward.

We know this is a lot of information to take in. But we want to give you all of the tools you need to protect yourself. That way you can actually enjoy online dating and find what you’re looking for: a real, lasting relationship (not an empty bank account).

Save the Date #20 Talking inclusion with a queer dating coach | Ariella Serur

September 2, 2021/in Blog, Date Tips /by Jackie Anzaroot

Queer dating coach Ariella Serur is on a mission to disrupt traditional dating advice. Why? Because online dating should be exciting, not exhausting. In addition to being a dating coach, Ariella is currently receiving a Graduate Advanced Certificate from Columbia University’s School of Psychology in Sexuality, Women, and Gender with a concentration in LGBTQ Issues. Today, she’s here to talk about how queer daters can courageously navigate the dating landscape without feeling overwhelmed.

SHOW NOTES:

How Ariella arrived at her mission [01:27]

Queer is an umbrella term [03:55]

Get clear on your values [08:53]

Understanding yourself is key [10:31]

There is no timeline on coming out [12:57]

Don’t get “stuck in the chat” [21:00]

Opening difficult conversations [28:34]

Challenging bias and microaggressions [38:21]

Dating apps and inclusivity [40:53]

RESOURCES:

  • Ariella’s Website
  • Ariella’s Instagram

Save the Date #19 Getting past the small talk | Girls Gotta Eat

July 7, 2021/in Blog, Date Tips /by Jackie Anzaroot

As comedians and hosts of the hit podcast “Girls Gotta Eat,” Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine are experts at going beyond the surface and really connecting with people. So today, they’re going to help us ditch the boring small talk and get to the good stuff. Let’s learn from Rayna and Ashley about how we can make conversations with our dates actually fun and juicy. 

SHOW NOTES:

How Ashley & Rayna became good communicators [01:19]

Lean into what you have in common [04:59]

How preparing for a date is helpful [06:23]

A terrible date can still be a good story [10:29]

There is no such thing as a bad date [11:29]

Safety first [16:37]

Date only when you feel good about yourself and your life [18:12]

Being funny is overrated [25:11]

Read the room [32:27]

You can always change the subject [36:42]

Don’t be negative [40:10]

RESOURCES:

  • www.girlsgottaeatpodcats.com
  • @GirlsGottaEatPodcast on Instagram
  • Ashley’s Instagram
  • Rayna’s Instagram
  • @Girls_GottaEat on Twitter

Singapore daters: Are you talking about sex?

July 2, 2021/in Blog, News, Stats, Tips /by Kaitlyn Crow

When you’re dating someone new and it feels right, it makes sense to start wondering about the next steps. Should I introduce them to my family? Will they love my dog? When are we going to have sex? 

If that last question made you pause, you’re not alone. Talking about sex pretty much everywhere has a reputation for being uncomfortable or even taboo. This is especially true for singles in Singapore. 

But we don’t think that has to be the status quo anymore. So, we got together with Durex to tackle the topic and give Singaporeans the tools they need to speak up about sex. 

Spoiler alert, talking about sex is tough

To kick off our campaign with Durex, we asked daters in Singapore for their thoughts around talking about sex. Right away, we realized that plenty of people actually want to talk about it…but just aren’t. 

54% of daters think it's important to talk about sex with their dates, but only 23% are actually talking about it

It turns out that asking if your date wants to have sex isn’t really the hard part. Only 26% of daters said that’s where they get tripped up. But more than half of singles said the No. 1 thing they have trouble talking about is health and safety, like STD history or latest test date.

There was also a difference between men and women when it comes to bringing up sexual health with someone new.

70% of women feel it is very important to use a condom, compared to 36% of men
59% of women want to know their dates’ STD history and latest test date, compared to 34% of men


These numbers show that women in Singapore might be bearing more of the burden around safe sex practices. And that burden is even more difficult if you and your partner aren’t actually talking about it. 

What’s stopping daters from talking about sex?

When asked why they aren’t bringing up sex with their dates, 40% of daters said the same thing: it’s super uncomfortable. 

Societal expectations play a major role here when we break down why talking about sex is uncomfortable in the first place. The No. 1 reason daters don’t feel like it’s OK to talk about sex with someone new? They don’t want to seem too forward or promiscuous. 

The top three reasons daters feel uncomfortable talking about sex
#1 I don’t want to come across as promiscuous 
#2 I never talked about it, so I don't know how 
#3 It's too embarrassing

One other reason stood out when daters shared why they aren’t talking about sex: 42% of women don’t feel comfortable talking about it because they just aren’t interested in sex before marriage, while only 19% of men felt this way. 

How we can normalize talking about sex 

We know dating is already complicated enough. And talking about something as awkward as sex adds an extra layer of worry. So, we figured the best thing to do was to be as forward as possible, and sat down with some daters to have them answer questions about sex together.    

Daters in Singapore sit down together to answer questions about sex and dating.

Here’s the simple truth: You can’t have an honest, lasting relationship without good communication. And your sex life is included in that, too. If you want to know something about your date, like where they grew up or what their plans are for the future, you’d ask them. The same should go for questions around sex.

And even if you’re not interested in pre-marital sex, that doesn’t mean you should skip the conversation. It’s important that you share your plans with your dates and encourage them to do the same in return. That way, you can both make informed decisions about whether your wants and needs are compatible. 

So that’s why we’re here to give you the tools you need to confidently ask the questions. We asked daters what they struggle with most and want to learn more about – here’s what we got. 

How do I bring up sex? 

You want to talk about sex with your dates…but just have no clue where to start. We totally get that, it’s a whole new world for a lot of us. Here are some questions to get you started:

💜 Is sex something you’re interested in?

💜 What are you looking for in a sexual partner?

💜 At what point would you feel comfortable having sex?

💜 What are some boundaries you need to set before sex? 

💜 If you’re sleeping with other people, have you been tested?

Obviously, you don’t have to ask every one of these questions like some sort of interview. Think of these questions as guidelines to feel out what matters most to you, and you can ask them when the time feels right. 

How do I set boundaries in my sex life?

We all know boundaries are important for a healthy relationship. But what does a boundary even mean? They’re going to look different for everyone. Here’s a few guidelines to help you figure yours out. 

Think about past experiences. What did you like, what didn’t you like? Use those to figure out what you’d like your date to know now.

Get comfortable saying no. If you’re not down to have sex until a certain time or don’t want to try something they’re into, speak up. And if your date can’t respect those boundaries, it’s a sign to move on. 

Write it down. Try filling out a yes/no/maybe worksheet to figure out what you’re both into. Writing things down and reading responses on your own time takes away some of that awkwardness that comes with talking in person.

Talk safety. Test dates, condom use, STD history, all that. And remember, safewords aren’t just for BDSM relationships. They work any time you need to quickly express when something isn’t right.

How do I build intimacy through sex? 

OK, now you know the importance of talking about sex and you can cover the basics. Let’s build on that to make your relationship and sex life even better. 

Start outside the bedroom. No, not like what you’re thinking. Ditch the small talk and work on opening up outside of your sex life, instead. That way you’ll feel more comfortable being real about what you like sexually. 

Talk about your definitions. To you, sex might mean one thing. But to the person you’re seeing, it might look a little different. If you two aren’t on the same page, it might lead to a misunderstanding or unmet expectations.

Be explicit. Be clear about what you like and don’t like. If you’re just going through the motions with each other, chances are you’re not having the best sex you could be having. It can be as simple as “Hey, that whole leg move we did? I definitely cramped up. Let’s not do that again.”

Discover your fantasies. Once you’ve got that whole using-your-words thing down, move on from basic boundaries to sexual fantasies. You might feel silly, and maybe you’ll laugh or fumble while trying it out, but letting your partner try something new with you is super intimate.

Be prepared. Let’s be real, nothing kills a mood faster than not having peace of mind. Make sure you’ve got what you need, like condoms, beforehand. That way, it’s less worrying and more focusing on each other.

Where we can go from here

Listen, sex isn’t an easy topic, and we’re not all going to suddenly become experts who never fumble their way through a tough conversation. But we have to start somewhere if we want to make talking about sex our new normal. 

If you want to learn more dating advice like this, be sure to check out our Instagram. We can get better at building lasting, stronger relationships together. 

Save The Date #18 – Level up your 2021 dating life | Kimmy Seltzer

June 23, 2021/in Blog, Date Tips /by Jackie Anzaroot

Welcome to Flirting 101. I’m joined by Kimmy Seltzer, a competence therapist, dating strategist, matchmaker, and host of the hit podcast: The Charisma Quotient. Kim runs a multitude of learning workshops and helps clients all over the world to unveil their most beautiful selves, and today she’s going to help us figure out this whole flirting thing. 

This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

How Kimmy defines dating [2:02]

What is being playful going to lead you to? [11:27]

Recommendations to start tapping back into your inner childlike playfulness [19:08]

Things about body language you should be aware of [30:05]

Bring up the chemistry level [40:14]

Redefining rejection [43:53]

Best dating advice Kimmy has ever received [46:57]

RESOURCES:

  • Kimmy’s Style Guide for CMB Daters: https://bl394.isrefer.com/go/Guide/CoffeeMeetsBagel/
  • Kimmy’s website: http://www.kimmyseltzer.com
  • Got a question for Kimmy? http://www.askkimmy.com
  • Kimmy’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/charisma-quotient-build-confidence-make-connections/id1269595477#episodeGuid=6ad2d910-ef0d-47e5-91f4-c3aa45b9aa49 
  • Kimmy’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kimmyseltzer/ 
  • Kimmy’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimmyseltzer 
  • Kimmy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimmyseltzer/ 
  • Kimmy’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxdWaWCarDDkO9qZWLSY3-g 

Save The Date #17 – How does race impact dating and relationships? | Damona Hoffman

June 9, 2021/in Blog, Date Tips /by Jackie Anzaroot

Today, we’re joined by dating coach Damona Hoffman to talk about race and dating. Having grown up in a family of interracial marriage with a white, Jewish father and African American mother who also have different religious backgrounds, this is a topic that has influenced and shaped her. On top of being a renowned dating coach who regularly shares her dating expertise on media outlets like the LA Times, the Washington Post, and “The Drew Barrymore Show,” she also has an amazing podcast that just celebrated its 350th episode. 

This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

What shaped Damona’s view as a dating coach [2:40]

Getting over the differences of dating somebody of a different background [5:09]

Vocalizing your worries early in the relationship [12:30]

Fun things that happen when dating somebody of different background [21:46]

Dating apps brought a major increase in interracial relationships [29:24]

Things to be aware of when making personal dating choices [35:05]

The best dating advice that Damona has received [40:41]

RESOURCES:

  • Damona’s website: https://damonahoffman.com/ 
  • Damona’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DamonaHoffman 
  • Damona’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/damonahoffman?lang=el 
  • Damona’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/ 
  • Damona’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6SLTGgYEsKcDwc1Kry1wnw 

Save the Date #16 Ditch those bad dating habits | Evan Marc Katz

May 26, 2021/in Blog, Date Tips /by Jackie Anzaroot

Today I’m joined by author, podcast host, and dating coach Evan Marc Katz, who focuses his expertise on how to help strong, successful women find a lasting relationship that fits them best. Alexa, play “Single Ladies” and let’s get into it. 

This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship.

SHOW NOTES:

Why Evan coaches only single women [0:55]

Common challenges Evan sees among his clients [6:53]

Five non-negotiable must-haves [11:09]

The most common problem female clients face [18:33]

Expectations that get in the way of dating success [23:26]

Finances and status-related expectations [29:07]

Evan’s Love U course preview [33:36]

The best dating advice Evan has ever received [41:33]

RESOURCES:

  • Evan’s website: https://www.evanmarckatz.com/ 
  • Evan’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvanMarcKatzFan  
  • Evan’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/evanmarckatz?lang=en 
  • Evan’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evanmarckatzfan/ 

QUOTES:

“People compromise on the wrong qualities and don’t realize it until it’s too late. Without character, kindness, consistency, communication, and commitment, you’re never going to be happy. “

“It’s easy to help men because so many men are not good at the art of dating or understanding women. A little bit goes a very long way for a man who’s interested in bettering himself.”

“People cling to dramatic relationships. We get used to those relationships. We normalize those relationships. It should be easy, and you should never accept anything less than that.”

“Compromising and settling entail the same thing. They both involve trade-offs. However, compromise is a trade-off you’re happy with. Settling is a trade-off you’re not happy with.”

“You don’t have to fundamentally change who you are to find lasting love, you just need to choose better partners who are more compatible with you. Once you do that, relationships are easy.”

“Don’t take on a guy who will be a great boyfriend only if he changes. Men aren’t hiring you to be their consultants. They want to be accepted in full. You have to assume this is it. “

“There’s more to relationships than marrying someone who’s the most impressive. We’re not evaluating the person. If your relationship is a 10, you might want to hold on to it.”

“Nobody wants to give up on the list they’ve had in their head that they insist they deserve. There’s nothing wrong with dating sites. It’s the way we’re using them that’s the problem.”

“Don’t evaluate the person, evaluate the relationship when comparing your exes side by side. How is the relationship? That’s the thing that’s worth preserving. “

“Relationships shouldn’t be work, they take effort. Good relationships don’t have this normalized feeling of anxiety. If you’re constantly on edge, you’re in the wrong relationship.”

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