Get It Together, Boston!

What do you do when a relationship book deal is on the line and your boyfriend dumps you?
How fast can you learn the sacraments before a blind date?
What happens when your speeddating event is in a lumber yard and your date’s dance moves are the kind you pay for?
These and many more are the questions posed when dating in Boston, at least in Get It Together. But against all odds, four friends try to write dating research worth publishing!
Please join us on January 14th for this epic (and FREE!) event at the Regent Theatre. It’s going to be a fantastic night of local Boston Filmmakers screening some wonderful work and of course, a dating film to end all dating films.
Artists featured on the bill include:
FRANKIE FRAIN, GEOFF TARULLI, PAUL TURANO, KAREN GEROFSKY, MATTHEW HASHIGUCHI, JAN ROBERTS-BRESLIN, BILLY PALUMBO, JEREMY LATOUR and SHAUN CLARKE.
Can’t wait to see you there, popcorn at the ready! Find more details on FACEBOOK and check out our trailer below!
See you at the movies, Boston daters/film appreciators!

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11 (and a half) Haunted Houses to Take Your Date this Halloween

Halloween is THE perfect time to take your date out. Especially to haunted houses. The kind that have ridiculous, bloody humans. And monsters that jump out at you. Why? Because of one simple reason: people cling together for dear life when they’re scared! And yes, it may be a “cheap” trick but hey, you can’t say it doesn’t work! It’s a guaranteed hug-fest when it comes to haunted houses! Here are 11.5 date-worthy places across the U.S to take your plus-one this Hallows Eve!
1. NEW YORK CITY, NEW YORK (HUDSON SQUARE)
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $30 + Handling Fee, $35 CASH At the Door (There’s also a student discount available!)
DATE WORTHY: There are not one, not three, but SIX Chambers of Horror (The Crypt, Thunderdome, The Wake, Mayhem!, Maggot Invasion, Hannibal’s Hell) in Blood Manor which means you get to scare your date 6 times the amount. Hopefully, she’s still with you by the end of Chamber Six.
2. SAN LEANDRO, CALIFORNIA
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $25 for General Admission (2 haunted houses & concerts!), $35 for Fast Pass
DATE WORTHY: Featured on KRON4 & ABC, this is a ScreamPark packed with Haunted Houses, concerts, food & drinks! Sounds like a promising Halloween event to take your date, don’t you think?
2.5. SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: SOLD OUT!
DATE WORTHY: This is the half of the haunted house- the 0.5 of the 11 total haunted houses mentioned here. Why? Because it is COMPLETELY sold out. And why am I mentioning this? Because it’s the first of it’s kind: a BDSM- inspired haunted house located in the Mission District in the World’s LARGEST Porn Castle (What?! Yes, I know this is SO San Francisco) and it is awesome.
3. LONG BEACH, CALIFORNIA (On an actual ship, what?! That’s awesome!)Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $20 for Happy Hour (To get a little tipsy before you get the bejeezus scared out of you) General Admission: $24
DATE WORTHY: This ship is full of freaks, weirdos, and to top it all off- a ringmaster is your host for the night!
4. AURORA, ILLINOIS
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $18 General Admission, $25 Combination Ticket (Basement of the Dead, Shattered 3D) *Cash Only at the Door! Shattered 3D is more of a show/story about an evil clown who smashes things!
DATE WORTHY: The main attraction: a mutilated father and son duo who seem to be stealing employees from an old laundry factory. No big deal. Just your average sliced, burned, cut up people living under an abandoned building.
5. WASHINGTON, DC
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $30 General Admission, $45 Speed Pass
DATE WORTHY: All you need to know: a ton of missing children and a 50,000 sq ft. horror house. Enjoy!
6. ABINGTON, MASSACHUSETTS
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $23 for ALL attractions, $3 OFF coupon availble online (HOORAY!)
DATE WORTHY: What’s cool is that they change around their monsters EVERY night! So, theoretically if you took your date here every day of the week, you’d see something different every time!
Side Note: even if you think standing outside of the haunted mansion is safe, it’s not. There are roamers all around. Dun Dunn Dunn!
7. DORAL, FLORIDA
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $25 for regular days, $35 concert days ($2 OFF coupon online)
DATE WORTHY: With 30+ haunted rooms, park rides, and music, your date is sure to have a screamin’ good time at the amusement park! And be warned, since it is an amusement park…clowns will be present!
8. NORCROSS, GEORGIA
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $22 Weekdays, $25 Fridays, Saturdays $28 for Season of the Witch & Spliced.
DATE WORTHY: This year the theme is Season of the Witch! There is an additional haunted house name Spliced for an additional cost.
Fun Fact: The Walking Dead cast visited this Haunted House!
9. GLENN MILLS, PENNSYLVANIA
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $20 for the Hayride, $15 for Bates Motel, $15 for Cornmaze $40 for All Three Attraction.
DATE WORTHY: Ah, the infamous Bates Motel…so, it looks like you and your date have some options here: an effortless hayride, a traditional haunted house, or get lost in a cornmaze. The options are up to you and how scared YOU’RE going to be!
10. SEATTLE, WASHINGTON
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $20 General Admission, $30 VIP
DATE WORTHY: Just an FYI, this is a REAL morgue (super creepy!). Be prepared for bloody floors, funeral preparations, and seeing crematorium chambers.
11. HOUSTON, TEXAS
Haunted Houses to Take Your Date
COST: $25 Online, $29 at Door $29 Online Fast Pass, $37 At Door
DATE WORTHY: There are a total of 5 attractions for Scream World and it covers every. single. fear from slaughter houses to clowns to zombies, to maniacs. This one is terrifying because it’s a cohesive walk through that is both indoors and outdoors!
Happy Halloween Dating! And remember: Fear Brings People Together!
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The Simulacra, Simulation and the Pseudo-reality of Online Dating

There are three films in the past twenty years that a great many of you have probably seen. Those are The 13th Floor, The Matrix and Inception. Yet even if you have seen these films, you may not know who Jean Baudrillard is, though you should. His essay on the Simulacra and Simulation is the foundation for their plots- some with direct references, others without. All have the simulation of reality as the cornerstone for their story’s success. All three are strikingly similar to one another in this regard and the ways they achieve an alternate reality, and (important for us) all have me thinking about online dating.
In 1981 Jean Baudrillard released his Simulacra and Simulation, the crux of which (if you HAD to put it in a nutshell) was that there is a transformation of symbols or signs of objects in which they begin as a direct representation of an object- the word Apple actually representing an apple, for example- and change until they are so far removed from what they actually represent that in fact a new reality is formed and understood, made entirely of simulations. The real, as it was understood, becoming obsolete. His steps to break this down are essentially this:

  1. The first stage is a definitive copy of an original where both the replication and the original reality are distinct and distinguishable from one another. The word Apple is distinguished from our image, our taste of an apple.
  2. The second stage is a distortion of reality where the sign no longer points to a reality properly, but rather hints at a false reality that it cannot actually represent.
  3. The third stage we lose site of the original reality completely, as signs pretend to replicate reality but in fact no longer have an original reality to point to. The signs make claims to be something- The word Apple pretending to represent an apple- but we no longer have a relationship to what an apple is. Only the word for it. Only a reference to something else.
  4. The fourth stage is pure simulation, where there is no relationship to any kind of original reality at all. Signs only are references to other signs. Apple as we know it is only a kind of fruit is a kind of food is something we eat. But we don’t know what a real apple is. Our lives have become established on such artificial terms, that the language is entirely understood based on artificial connections and devoid of original meaning.

With this in mind, what I’m posing to you is this: Are we traveling towards an ultimate simulation in which the aspects of online dating no longer have anything to do with what we often refer to as real life dating? Are we creating a new dialogue in which the language for that particular reality hasn’t yet been written because it has not broken ties with symbols associated with “real life”? I think it’s totally possible and also unavoidable.
With all of our avatars currently existing as a representation of the self, is it responsible then to guess that the realm of dating is tip-toing a line that eventually will take the entire experience out of reality as we know it and fully into an online existence? A reference for a reality of self that is rapidly losing its original meaning?
If you think about it, you currently have a profile, the amount of truth in it is to a large degree fully up to you. There are no reality police in online dating. Your representation of self is comprised of a number of pictures that are a self-perceived representation of not necessarily your personality, but more so the personality you are hoping to project in an online pre-relationship stage. So at this stage, the “you” that you know is already a compacted, simplified version of the You that those who know you in what we’ll call “real life” are familiar with. Let’s break a relationship down into 3 stages:
Courtship
Initial Dating
Relationship
We are currently at a moment in time in which only the first of these three stages, Courtship, has begun its transformation from an original “real life” occurrence to one that now is capable of happening with avatars. The other two, Initial Dating as well as Relationship may have elements that we associate with technology such as talking on the phone or skyping etc, but to a degree they still require face-to-face interaction to sustain themselves. But my guess is as we continue to accept the degree to which an online profile is an accepted representation of the self, we are allowing for more wiggle room for the other two areas of a relationship to transform the meaning or sign of “Relationship” from the understanding we now have into a definition we currently reserve for “Interaction”.
The word or sign “Relationship” currently has in large part expectations of romantic interactions, and as of right now our mental reference for it also includes personal, face-to-face meetings. But if we are headed in a direction in which not only actions but also intentionality can be imitated online via representation of the “self” real or unreal through avatars, am I really that far off-base in thinking that in the not so distant future we are going to be looking at relationships that exist entirely in an online forum? I’m not talking about a video game that you play with a person you don’t know where one of you is a “wife” and the other can be a “husband”. I’m talking about no longer differentiating that relationship as different from your mom and dad’s, or your brother and his boyfriend. I’m talking about the word relationship no longer referencing something outside of a computer. And if that’s the case, what does that mean for the meaning of the term, the sign “Relationship”? Are we going to be able to the choose the kind of relationship reality that we would like to have? One requiring physically meeting someone vs only knowing them through an online persona? Or will we forget at some point that that used to be something real? What will “Real” be in the future?
Maybe  “Reality” will be another criteria to choose on your profile. Perhaps it is as Baudrillard implied that only by reaching the understanding that there is no real then we reach the truth- the Simulacrum. But I’m not particularly looking forward to it, myself. Chris Impicciche, a friend of mine, made a great short film called Save State about the transition from a gaming perspective. It seems entirely relevant now more than ever.

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While You Wait for Mr. Right


When you find yourself throwing a Saturday night pity-party because you don’t have Mr. Right knocking on your front door holding a bouquet — here are some things you can do instead.



Get off Social Media

Scrolling through pictures of babies, engagement rings, and first-looks are just going to fuel bitterness and jealousy.  Your friends aren’t going to stop having adorable families anytime soon, so if you can’t handle the feed, get off the network and remove yourself from the situation.
Do this: Delete the app
 
Hang out with your favorite married couple
I had the pleasure of spending last weekend with one of my favorite married couples.  You know the type I am talking about — the couple that enjoys each other’s companionship so much that they actually make marriage look fun. Spending time with them reminds me that there is no rush when it comes to finding my ‘perfect’ fit and gives me hope for what the future holds. I am so excited to find someone to adventure through life with, and I’ll wait another 26 years for that person if it means holding out for my best friend.
Do this: make a phone call
 
Pick a passion
The fact that you have the time and energy to even worry about dating, means you’re in the top 1%. Some people are too busy trying to survive to daydream about what flowers make the best centerpieces. Find a cause you are passionate about and get involved! Animal rescues, homeless shelters, mentorship, etc. Research NGO’s and find opportunities for volunteering, fundraising, or simply donating financially. The less time you spending thinking about yourself, the better you’ll feel.
Research this: charity: water / First Descents / Volunteer Match
 
Drink a bottle of wine
Because we all know that when you’re in a relationship you have to do sharsies.
Drink this: One Hope Wine
 
Bake cookies
I don’t know when the tradition of baking cookies for significant others started, but let’s spread the love to family, friends, and co-workers. My sister occasionally sends me a box of homemade cookies from Montana, and it never fails to make my day. Make someone else’s day by surprising them with cookies! No reason required.
Bake this: Cake mix cookies
 
Figure out how to use a Dyson vacuum
I don’t mean this in a sexist, women-need-to-be-in-the-kitchen kind of way. I just mean if you’re really looking to kill an evening, this is a good way to do it. It took me an hour to vacuum my room last night because there are more gadgets and buttons on a Dyson than my MacBook. I am a web-developer, which means I am usually pretty good about figuring out how things work — but dammit Dyson, you win.
Read this: Manuals
 
Get a promotion
Focus on changing your job title instead of your last name. Spend some free time learning a new skill or establishing new relationships in your industry. Being single is a great time to dive into your career. This might mean taking a weekend course or going to a conference. Besides, you never know who you might meet!
Do this: Join a meetup in your industry
 
Go out with Mr. Wrong
You won’t know he’s not Mr. Right unless you go out with him. However, once you do realize he’s not right for you, there is no need to continue seeing him. I am a huge supporter of dating (online or offline). It’s a great way to get to know yourself and meet new people. But don’t do it out of loneliness. It’s not healthy for you or fair to the other person.
Download this: Coffee Meets Bagel
 
Get Healthy
Mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically — get yourself in a good position so when you do meet someone, you won’t start a relationship with loads of emotional baggage.
Do this: join workout class / seek counseling / meditate / register for a race
 


Have other ideas or resources you’d like to share? I’d love to hear them!
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Five Creative & (almost!) Free Date Ideas

The art of the first date is a fragile endeavor, and few people embark upon it with success.
First impressions matter, and there are a million factors that can make-or-break an initial meet up. If you’re looking to solidify a connection, it’s important to pick an environment and activity that will allow both of you to be yourselves—relaxed and at ease.
I’ll be honest: I hate the typical meal-or-coffee thing. It’s too much pressure. I feel stressed to be consistently witty and charming, and to balance an equal measure of talking about myself with asking questions. Can you tell I’m an over-thinker? That leads to awkwardness, which leads to more over-thinking, which leads to more nerves. And on, and on, and on. It’s a vicious cycle.
Not to mention, if you’ve been cruising the dating scene for a while, there’s a good chance you’re hurting for cash. When you’re looking to make a good impression, it can be daunting to plan a date on a budget.
Don’t you worry, though, Grasshopper. Here are five great options for a creative and fun experience that won’t burn a hole through your wallet.

1. Breakfast (or Brunch!)

Ok, maybe it seems like I’m reneging on my “no-meals” rule. I promise, I’m not. Breakfast is the exception.
I like breakfast dates for several reasons. For one, it’s fun. Who doesn’t love breakfast? It’s early, so you’re probably awake and refreshed—rather than bogged down from a day full of work and meetings. If possible, choose a place with a nice outdoor patio. Fresh air is calming, and you can always fall back on people-watching when conversation lulls.
Plus, breakfast is a pretty accommodating meal for people with dietary restrictions. Most breakfast spots have great options for vegetarians and those sensitive to gluten. And to top it off, breakfast is generally more budget-friendly than other meals.
Word to the wise: Only choose a breakfast date if you’re both morning people. I’ve heard disaster stories of anti-morning folks attempting this. Needless to say, it was a flop. If your bodies natural rhythms aren’t going to cooperate, avoid this at all costs.

2. Improv

 Take to the interwebs and do a quick Yelp search for a local improv show in your town. If you do your research, you should be able to find something free, or less than a general admission movie ticket.
I can personally vouch for this date. I went to a show with a guy I had almost no chemistry with, and the performer were—ahem—not the world’s best talent. Regardless, we had a blast. It took the pressure off of us and allowed us to connect through laughter (because improv is still enjoyable when the performers blow it!)
Word to the wise: Most shows have some sort of appropriateness rating available. Try to avoid anything over PG-13. Those kinds of jokes can be too much for a first date.

3. Farmers Market

One thing I dislike about the typical meal date is being glued to my seat. When I am nervous, I am fidgety.
The nice thing about heading to a local farmers market is the ability to stay moving, which releases all those jitters. There is a ton to see and explore, and endless possibilities for conversation starters. It’s also a great opportunity to try new things together, and many farmers markets have some kind of music or live entertainment. Boom.
Plus, who doesn’t like supporting their local community?
Word to the wise: This is an especially great first date if you already attend your farmers market regularly and know a few vendors. Having established friendships and knowing who has the best produce in your neighborhood will seem super charming.

 4. Dollar Movie Theater (Mystery Science Theater Style)

Now, before you assume this is tacky—let me explain. Movie dates can be uncomfortable, because you’re sitting next to a stranger in silence for at least two hours. That’s fine if the movie turns out to be good. But if the movie blows, it’s a recipe for disaster.
Instead, pick out a show together at the local dollar theater. Try to pick something that looks particularly awful, that’s also been out for quite some time. You want the theater as empty as possible.
Then, during the film, you both have freedom to talk. You can crack jokes and criticize the acting all you want. The lighthearted experience is a great means to feel comfortable around each other, and build an actual bond.
Word to the wise: This might not be the best option for two introverts, or for those folks who very passionately hold an anti-talking-in-movies policy.

 5. Geocaching

It’s time for a treasure hunt! What could be better for a first date than a little bit of teamwork and adventure?
If you’re unfamiliar with geocaching, let me explain: Geocaching in a real-life treasure hunt. Around the world, there are millions (yes, millions!) of active geocache locations. Participants mark the coordinates of hidden treasure using a GPS device, and everyone who visits a cache has the opportunity to take something and leave something behind. (To be fair, be prepared to leave something that is of equal/greater value to that which you take.)
If you have a smartphone, there are plenty of great geocaching apps available for download. These will help you pick an adventure, navigate to your destination, and give you clues to help you figure out where the treasure is hiding.
The best part? Every cache has a logbook for you and your date to sign—leaving a legacy of your first date. (Imagine coming back a year later and re-signing!)
Word to the wise: Warn your date to wear comfortable clothes and good shoes. These adventures can lead you to unexpected places. Be prepared.
(For more information, visit the official Geocaching website.)
 
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California Singles! Let's Compare Dating in San Francisco vs. Los Angeles

On the west coast, there’s the classic rivalry of NorCal versus SoCal. So, how does dating stack up between the two great cities of San Francisco and Los Angeles?

1. Where you met: 

  
SF: You were introduced at a house party. Or online, through one of the many dating apps everyone seems to be on.
LA: At the Equinox while snapping a #gymselfie or as you were both picking up your puppies from doggy daycare.

2. Your first date: 

 

SF: Overpriced coffee at an artisanal, organic coffee shop in the Mission.
LA: Overpriced cocktails at a trendy restaurant in Venice.

3. He showed up:

SF: At 6:15pm, wearing a North Face jacket and sneakers. He was 15 minutes late because his shuttle bus was attacked by protestors.
LA: 30 minutes late because of bumper-to-bumper traffic on the 405.

4. She showed up:

SF: Wearing jeans and a t-shirt, carrying a yoga mat.
LA: Wearing a skin-tight Herve Leger dress and heels, yoga mat optional.

5. During the date, he says:

SF: “I’m just killing it at my start-up. I hella want to retire by 35, especially if my investments in Bitcoin go well. Do you want another craft beer?”
LA: “I’m working on a screenplay, but I’ve been busy with my improv group and personal trainer. Is this dish gluten-free?”

6. During the date, she says: 

  
SF: “I just got my Google glass and love them. Can’t wait to go wine tasting in Napa this weekend.”
LA: “I have a yoga retreat in Palm Springs next weekend where we’re doing a group juice cleanse.”

7. After the date:

SF: You compete to see who can get an Uber or Lyft on their phone quicker. You split fare on the app.
LA: You make sure to check out what kind of car he/she drives. Then you drive away in opposite directions.

8. Second date:

SF: Walking around the farmers market, picking up locally grown strawberries. Or dinner eating organic kale and quinoa salad at The Plant.
LA: Pretend to be outdoorsy for a day. Put on a pair of $100 lululemons and “hike” Runyon Canyon.

9. Form of communication: 

  
SF: Snapchat. Any evidence of your flirty exchanges will self-destruct in 10 seconds.
LA: Instagram. Everyone wants more followers. #nofilter

10. Long-term dating potential: 

  
SF: Greater than 50%. People always need a +1 to bike across the Golden Gate Bridge with.
LA: Depends on how far you live from each other. If he/she lives across the city, it’s basically long-distance.

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Dating in New York and San Francisco

Who Has More Fun when it Comes to Dating: New York or San Francisco?

New York and San Francisco are large, cosmopolitan cities that have a lot to offer in terms of entertainment, culture, shopping and dining. But the similarities between the two cities end right there, especially when it comes to dating.

Let’s take a closer look as to how the game is played in the contemporary battlefield of romance where New Yorkers and San Franciscans win, lose and break hearts.

1. Where you meet:

NYC: Either some East Village dive bar or some fratastic sports bar in Murray Hill.

SF: You were introduced at a house party. Or online, through one of the many dating apps everyone seems to be on.

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

2. Your first date:

NYC: Overpriced drinks at a dark, loud but chic lounge in SoHo.

SF: Overpriced coffee at an artisanal, organic coffee shop in the Mission.

Dating in New York and San Francisco 

 

3. He showed up:

NYC: At 10pm, coming straight from his investment bank’s office, wearing a suit and a tie.

SF: At 6:15pm, wearing a hoodie and sneakers. He was 15 minutes late because his shuttle bus was attacked by protesters.

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

 

4. She showed up:

NYC: Hair blown out at Drybar, wearing a tiny little black dress and heels.

SF: Wearing jeans a T-shirt, carrying a yoga mat.

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

5. During the date, he:

NYC: “I just gotta check my emails one more time. I’m working on a really important deal. I can’t talk about it. What was I saying? Oh yes, will be out in the Hamptons this weekend.”

SF:  “I’m just killing at my start-up. I want to retire by 35. Especially if my investments in Bitcoin go well. Until then, I’m just gonna keep going skiing in Tahoe on and go on meditation retreats.”

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

6. During the date, she:

NYC: “TheEast Side is SOOOO much better than the West Side. I love having brunch & mimosas at Sarabeth’s.  And I always hang out at Ulysses for  happy hour.”

SF: “I just got my Google glasses and love them. Can’t wait to go wine tasting in Napa this weekend.”

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

7. After the date:

NYC: He got in a black town car. She got in a taxi, after pleading with the driver to take her back to Williamsburg.

SF: You competed to see who can get an Uber or Lyft on their phone quicker. You split the fare on the app.

Dating in New York and San Fracisco

 

8. Second date:

NYC: You have a 50-50% chance of making it that far. But if you do, get ready for some tapas at Casa Mono or sushi at Morimoto. (That is if he is trying really hard to impress her)

SF: Walking around the farmers market, picking up locally grown strawberries. Or dinner eating organic kale & quinoa salad at The Plant.

Dating in New York and San Francisco

 

9. Form of communication:

NYC: Email or BBM. Wait, people still use blackberries? Yeah, in NY they do.

SF:  Snapchat. Any evidence of your flirty exchanges will self-destruct in 10 seconds.

Dating in New York and San Francisco

10. Long-term dating potential:

NYC: Hit or miss. One of you is bound to get way too busy with work.

SF: Greater than 50%. People always need a +1 to bike across the Golden Gate Bridge with.

Dating in New York and San Francisco
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Rainy Day Date Ideas

Rainy Day Date Ideas

Need date ideas for a rainy day? Don’t let April showers get you down!
Check out these 5 date ideas that’ll have you singing in the rain:
1. Explore an indoor market
You won’t miss the great outdoors as you wander the maze of food vendors and local shops. Sample exotic foods, grab a cold one, and enjoy people-watching.
We love getting lost in these notable marketplaces:
Boston – Faneuil Hall Marketplace
New York – Chelsea Market
Philadelphia – Reading Terminal Market
San Francisco – Ferry Building Marketplace
Seattle – Pike Place Market
2. Head to the classroom
Whether you’re interested in knitting hats for cats or at-home beer brewing, there’s a class for that. Impress your date with your newfound skills and maybe pick up a new hobby to enjoy together!
Time Out has a great listing of classes by city.
3. Get cooking
Get in touch with your inner top chef. After all, they say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If you don’t know where to start, use All Recipe’s “Cooking for Two” collection for the perfect meal.
And, don’t forget to pop open a bottle of vino to compliment your culinary creation.
4. Play games
A little friendly competition will get your adrenaline pumping and guarantee a playful day indoors. For the bold, Cards Against Humanity can be a great way to get a peek into your date’s sense of humor. Stick to the classics like Apples to Apples, Scrabble, or these board games to keep it G-rated.
Keep it flirty and don’t be afraid to invent your own rules! Twister, anyone?
5. Tour a local brewery or winery
Find a local waterhole that offers a behind-the-scenes tour. After imbibing on free samples, head to lunch or grab food at the bar to keep the date going. Can’t find a tour nearby? Stock up on drinks and snacks for a boozy indoor picnic.
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The 12 Dates of Christmas: Twelve of the Best First Date Ideas for the Holiday Season

Christmas season is coming and what better way to spend it then with your bagel?  Here are some of the best first date ideas (and second date!) for the holiday season.
1. Ice-skating
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Ice-skating under the Christmas stars is probably one of the most cliche, yet beautifully picturesque dates that you need to do.  Spend the night holding hands and doing loops around the rink to “Jingle Bell Rock”.
2. Hot Chocolate & Christmas Movies
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Snuggle up under the blankets with a mug of peppermint hot chocolate and tune in for a marathon of your favorite holiday movies.  We recommend classics like Elf, Gremlins, and Miracle on 34th Street.
3. See a Local Christmas Musical or Play
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Get in the Christmas spirit and stop by your local theater or church to watch performances of classics like “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” or “The Christmas Carol”.
4.  Watch a Christmas Symphony or Ballet
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Experience the wondrous sights and sounds of Christmas by attending a performance of Handel’s Messiah or the Nutcracker Suite by your local symphony or ballet.
5. Go Thrift Shopping for Ugly Christmas Sweaters 
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For all the hipsters out there, what better way to spend time with your date then hunting for hidden treasures at the local thrift store?  Plus, you’ll have an easy outfit to wear to that ugly sweater party your friend’s throwing.
6.  Look at Neighborhood Christmas Lights
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Hop in your car and spend the night driving around neighborhoods well-known for their extravagant holiday decorations.  Nothing beats good conversation and admiring the gorgeous Christmas lights.
7. Decorate a Gingerbread House 
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Come prepared with your favorite candies and show off your creative side through this edible, Christmas treat.  Buy a pre-made kit, or if the two of you are ambitious, you can build your own house from scratch.
8. Volunteer at a Toy Drive
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Give back by volunteering at a local toy drive .  This Christmas season give the greatest gift of joy and put a smile on a child’s face.
9. Go Tobbaganing
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Instead of building snowmen, making snow angels, and participating in typical snowball fights, try something a bit more adventurous!  Get ready for a thrill when you take your date tobboganing down the snow-covered hills at the local park.
10. Harvest Your Own Christmas Tree 
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Embrace the outdoors and head out to a Christmas tree farm to choose and cut down your own tree.  Check out this site for nearby farms in your state.
11. Go Window Shopping
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Take a stroll downtown to admire the gorgeous decorations and window displays of your favorite shops and luxury brands.  Macy’s in particular is known for their festive decorations and giant Christmas trees.
12. Have a Christmas Food Party
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What would Christmas be without all the festive food?  Treat your date to a romantic dinner at one of the best restaurants in town or better yet, cook up a holiday-inspired feast in the comforts of your kitchen.  Make sure to indulge in some prime rib, Christmas ham, and pecan pie.
Looking for more non-holiday-related fun? Don’t forget to check out our article another creative date idea!

Finally! A First Date Idea That’s Sexy, Fun, and Liberating

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Looking for a creative date idea to impress your date? Check out PaintNite – a brand new painting adventure that takes art, wine, and dating to a Van Gogh level. Set in local bistros and bars in major cities throughout the U.S., PaintNite sets the stage for you and your bagel to enjoy a drink while discovering your artistic talents.

Let your inhibitions fade as you sip cocktails, brush strokes of paint across your canvas, and enjoy a spirited evening of fun. Taking yourself too seriously is left at the door as you playfully release your inner artiste. Professional artists select a painting for the evening and carefully guide you through the steps of creating your own beautiful tableau. All supplies – paints, brushes, canvas, and a smock – are provided.

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PaintNite events occur often and the venues, paintings, and artists change frequently. All the details can be conveniently found on their website and tickets can be purchased online as well. Choose a painting that inspires you and bring your bagel along for this great first date idea. With a paintbrush in one hand and a cocktail in the other, you are primed for success.

Pro tip: Read up on the three pairs of complementary colors. It’ll take about two minutes tops and you’ll be sure to secretly impress your date.