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Top 6 Ways To Text Your Bagel

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Valentine’s Day Bonus! Ever have a hard time coming up with a good first text? You’re not the only one! Try emulating these smooth-talking Bagels. Six creative first texts that you wish you thought of first.
 
Most Honest
Bagel A: “Whats up! I don’t care you passed I just want one convo. I’m actually in Israel right now, you ever been??”
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Most Creative
Bagel J: “Like Oreo for milk, will you be bagel for my coffee?”
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Most Mistaken
Bagel D: “I missed a comma and for a second thought you liked to eat puppies. “Wow such tactless honestly!” Great smile!”
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Most Suggestive
Bagel S: “Hey! I like red wine and getting sweaty too! Mostly through Bikram Yoga…”
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Most Poetic
Bagel R: “Hey! I’m Ray. My birthday is in May and I like to play. Want to grab a drink some day? I hope you don’t say nay.”
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Most Bold
Bagel J: “This might be a weird question, but did I make out with you at a penthouse party last New Year’s?”
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CMB Men’s Series: Low Cost, High Reward Post Holiday Date Ideas

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Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Joe Weber of Dappered.com.

“’Cause I don’t care too… much for money, money can’t buy me love“ – The Beatles

If you’ve decided to take on the challenge of dating women instead of simply hanging out with them, there’s both good news and bad news.
The bad news is that you’re going to have to overcome your nervousness and fear of rejection.
But the good news is that taking women out on dates doesn’t have to be expensive. It simply takes a little more thought.
Too many men make the mistake of believing they can buy their way out of thinking. But creative, cheap dates are often the best kind. They’re more memorable than the standard dinner and a movie, and when a woman sees that you’re thoughtful, she won’t care how much dough you spent on taking her out (if she’s a keeper, that is).
So here are 10 fiscally responsible options for when you’re short on cash but still want to impress her with a terrific date…

1. Wine Tasting


Wineries are sprouting up everywhere this side of Antarctica. Most of these upstarts allow wine tasting for free or for a very small price (and often times, those that charge let you keep the glass.) Go and learn about the different wines, what they pair well with, and keep mental notes on which varietals she enjoys the most. Knowing a woman’s preferred type of wine isn’t as important as knowing her eye color, but it helps. As counter-intuitive as it may feel for those of us who see wasting alcohol as a mortal sin, make sure you use that spit bucket. You’re driving, you need to be responsible, and if you swallow every taste you’re not going to be fit to drive her home. You don’t have to spit every taste, but showcase some restraint. She’ll notice and appreciate it.

2. Hit a Flea Market

Unlike antique shops, flea markets seem geared for the young and not as affluent. The merchandise is almost always more interesting if not downright weird. Same goes for the people in attendance and those who are selling the goods. You can watch people barter, look over pieces of furniture that are probably haunted, and maybe pick up some small gift for your date if something inexpensive catches her eye. If it’s jewelery? Who knows. Maybe it won’t even turn her skin green. (Or it could end up being some awesome treasure). Try and stick to outdoor flea markets that have a good reputation. Not those once in a blue moon indoor sales which charge you an arm and a leg before you even get to lay eyes on what’s for sale.

3. The Sunset Hike + Post Pub Visit


Going for a meandering walk with no real destination can be fun, but hiking to the top of an easy to get to peak to watch the sun go down gives you purpose. Keep it to under 45 minutes. You don’t want to go on some epic journey only to end up stumbling through the dark. Reward yourselves with a beer or glass of wine afterwards at a cozy pub. This works terrific in the fall when you can see all the changing leaves around you.

4. The Photography-Filled Afternoon

File this one under the category of two-birds/one stone. Most of us have relatives in other parts of the country (or world) and you never know what to get them for their birthday or the holidays. Go on a photo hunting expedition in your hometown for the places and scenes that best represent where you live. When you’re all done, pick 12 of the best and hit one of the many websites that allow you to upload photos and create wall calendars. There’s your gift for Grandma and Grandpa who live a few time zones away and would love a reminder of what it looks like where you live.

5. The Bicycle Picnic


Picnics are always at the top of everyone’s list for cheap and romantic dates. But mixing in a leisurely long bike ride can make a nice difference. It’s relaxing, you get to enjoy some scenery on the way, and it’s far more romantic and engaging when compared to fighting through traffic and finding a place to park. Keep the menu simple, know any open container laws that might apply to your eventual picnic destination, and make sure you’ve got a backpack and bike gear rack that can handle your load. Take a bike lock with you. You might end up taking a detour on the way home for ice cream.

6. Take a Historical Walking Tour of Your Town

Almost always free, historical walking tours actually make you stop and appreciate the history that most of us drive by every single day. We’ve got our own point As and point Bs, and most of us rarely spend time focusing on the places in-between. Usually these tours are led by volunteers who can be real characters, and the buildings and their stories are never boring. Both (the guides and history) will provide for plenty of conversation at the cafe or bar afterward. Nostalgia, history, architecture, an appreciation for the past… it’s all wrapped up in one of these on-foot freebies.

7. Cheering on Your Local Roller Derby Girls


For the cost of one cheap seat at most major league games, you and your date could watch one of the hundreds of local roller derby clubs duke it out with a rival. Usually a ticket will let you see a couple of bouts, and the speed and spills are the real deal. It’s something different but still sports related, with just enough adrenaline, which doesn’t involve sweaty guys for once.

8. The Untraditional Movie Night

There are two options here. First, if you’ve just jumped into a relationship, skip the new romantic comedy that just hit the Redbox, and instead go with a classic like Casablanca, To Catch a Thief, or even the goofy-as-all-get-out original Ocean’s 11. Grab some takeout, make a meal, or have some cocktails on hand that line up with the plot or location of your chosen old Hollywood story. Set an upscale mood by dressing up a bit. You don’t want to look like you’re settling in for a night on the couch because you have the flu. Just because you’re at home watching a movie, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t dress up for her.
For those that have been in a relationship for awhile, consider reenacting your first movie date. We all (should) know the first movie we saw with our significant other. Find it for cheap on DVD, grab a wicker type basket from a craft store, dress it up with some tissue paper, and load it up with popcorn, M&Ms, and other movie theater-type snacks. Deliver it to her and ask her over for a movie night. Should cost you less than the arm and a leg you spent on just the popcorn and sodas alone when you two first saw it in the theater.

9. Farmer’s Market in the Morning, Making Dinner Together That Evening

Staying in and making dinner together is as romantic as it gets, but use your dinner date as an excuse to hit your local farmer’s market that morning. Stroll past the different vendors, and eventually you’ll start assembling a pile of fresh local ingredients that you can use that evening. You don’t have to get everything at the market. Maybe just the foundational items for each course–perhaps a couple bunches of kale to saute up with some olive oil and garlic, a couple of local organic chicken breasts that will be plenty easy to stuff, and some berries to pair up with shortcake for dessert. Get creative, then use the middle of the day to find some easy recipes and pick up the rest of the ingredients you’ll need.

10. Monopoly. Loser Buys Dinner or Drinks


Don’t scoff at board games (or cards). They can make for a terrific evening in (if that’s what you’re looking for). Put a friendly couples related wager down on the outcome (dinner, drinks… I’m sure your imagination is wandering to other places). It’ll make the game all the more interesting. Skip Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit. Those can get too mentally competitive. Monopoly has enough chance involved that no one’s feelings will get hurt (yours included) if someone completely dominates the other. And dominate Monopoly you will if you nab those orange properties (it’s true, they’ve done studies). Win, and if the prize includes a night out on her dime? Then this cheap date idea just produced another. Well… for you at least.
What are your favorite cheap date ideas? Share them with us and if we get some good ones, we’ll do another installment.

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Orgasms – Not Business As Usual

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Everyone wants great sex, you know this, I know this. (Berkeley college kids know this – as seen in this snappy recent sex article.) But sometimes orgasms are complicated, sometimes they’re MIA and sometimes they’re faked. (Guilty, guilty and guilty). OneTaste, a company dedicated to helping people live healthier, orgasmic lifestyles, knows that very well.
So when I agreed to attend a OneTaste seminar downtown on a rainy Saturday morning, (you know, for the sake of journalism) I was expecting a lot of girl talk between just us ladies. I’d been in the Vagina Monologues in college, I enjoyed sex; bring on the climax chat. I arrived at the holiday-decked Hilton hotel, Starbucks in one hand, pen in the other – I was ready.
Or not.
I was not prepared for the variety at the gathering. There were a few couples, there were some single ladies – but also a large collection of men. A fellow of at least sixty years with cowboy bootssat down next to me in the front row as the seminar began. The two speakers, Marcus and Joann, were well-dressed and smilingly, undeniably at peace. Given the setting, I ventured to think I knew why. Everyone introduced themselves and why they were there, and willingly divulged:

“I want to reintegrate sexuality into my life.”
“I want to be able to get what I want, and give more.”

I had to resist squirming in my seat when it was my turn to share. What? Me talk about my cum history in front of all these dudes? Surprisingly, I opened up: I wanted my next relationship to be more open, I admitted. More honest.
OneTaste was all about that – through Orgasmic Meditation (OM), Joann and Marcus revealed, which was defined as “extended, focused touch” on the woman during an OM. There were plenty of couples at the gathering, but having an Orgasmic Meditation can be strictly business, too, with another OMer found in the OneTaste community, no romance involved. The goal is to get that essential dose of oxytocin (with a helping hand) and gradually start seeing the benefits in all aspects of your life.
Okay, I thought. So, people – strangers – can just get together and have one of these “OM’s” whenever, wherever, without any romantic connotation? But what if I want romance in my orgasms?  There was a demonstration between Marcus and another experienced OMer before the lunch break, and no, I didn’t expect to see someone else’s vagina that afternoon. While part of me was mortified to be intruding on something so seemingly intimate (with fifty other people), another part of me was determined to get over myself. Okay, some dude is going DJ-style on another lady on a table in the middle of the room, but you know what? He seemed to have been doing a crackerjack job.
Needless to say it was an eye opening experience.
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If you’re single and want your next sexual relationship to be more rewarding (by leaps and bounds), I still recommend the seminar. The community is open to anyone and everyone, and signing up is available on their site.
Learn more about OneTaste now – Or read more about the day’s seminar here.
Source reference by Nadia Cho of the Daily Californian and special thanks to Maya Gilbert for inviting us at CMB to get a taste of OneTaste.
image Jessica Barone @chai_haiku is a writer, nerd, health nut, technophile, and the social media head n’ main scribbler for Coffee Meets Bagel. Learn more. 

Holiday Season Dating Tip: Is It Time to Meet The Parents?

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It’s that harrowing time of year again –  family holidays are full speed ahead and that means you and that flame you’ve been blissfully running around the city arm and arm with, not a care in the world, suddenly have to decide – is it time to meet the parents? 
This can be a terrifying notion for both guys and gals, because we all want to be liked by our beau’s family. Buy why is making a good impression on the fam so important in the 21st Century? It seems outdated to some, but meeting family is a big step in a pair’s relationship. If the people who raised your sweetheart from birth – who made them who they are today – have trouble interacting with you, then it may be a sign to reevaluate your relationship.
But hey! Don’t despair! Normally, all it takes is a little extra courtesy and self-awareness to make that trip home to meet his or her parents smooth sailing. And luckily, there’s plenty of easy-to-follow advice on how to make a great first impression. 
BostInno’s great writer Lisa DeCanio advised last week in an article about first-time family meet n’ greets: ”Be yourself – but don’t be yourself. Don’t be a phony, but remember that this is much more important that hanging out with your buddies. First impressions matter.” 
DeCanio goes on to warn of common mistakes you can avoid when meeting the ‘rents, including: 

  • Don’t show up empty-handed. 
  • Avoid any and all mentions of politics. 
  • Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want Grandma to see. 
  • Be nice to the family pets and little cousins. 
  • Do your research – learn about the family. 
  • Stay off your cell. 
  • Don’t swear. 
  • Go easy on the booze. 
So if you and your honey decide it’s time to meet each other’s families this year, just remember: come with a smile, a bottle of fine sparkling cider and your phone on airplane-mode.

Humor and Simplicity: What Guys Have Going for Them

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There is something wholly and totally alluring about a person that can make you laugh. Women are often drawn to men that, while on paper may seem completely ineligible, are irresistible because they are genuinely funny. It’s a trait much more valued in the 21st Century than back in the caveman days.
Instinctually females used to want someone of brute strength first, and intelligence second. But nowadays (perhaps because people are increasingly more in need of breaks from everyday stress) humor is extremely valuable. A guy that can make a gal laugh and feel more carefree is a potential long term, compatible mate.
Humor is just one of the big things guys can offer to make partners happy, Ironshrink writer Shawn T. Smith, Psy.D. explains in a recent article for Psychology Today, “What Women Love About Men.”  His findings are based on an online survey among men & women he conducted as part of the research for his new book, “The Woman’s Guide to How Men Think: Love, Commitment, and the Male Mind” (“What Men Love About Women” is his next post)
But tickling her funny bone isn’t the only thing attractive to the modern woman, Smith goes on to say after surveying several women’s responses. The fact that guys tend to sweat the details less, forgive quicker and forget conflicts faster, all pointing to less complicated emotions, is appealing to many ladies. 
So fellas, don’t worry so much about fancy presents or impressive résumés. You can go the extra mile by making her smile. (And members, make sure to add a touch of humor on your Coffee Meets Bagel profile!)

 

CMB Men’s Series: 5 Unique Gifts to Make Her Day

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CMB Men’s Series is original content dedicated to (confused) men and dating in the city.
Part V of our series welcomes another guest post by Amanda Raye, Editor-in-Chief of Broke & Chic. Visit her at www.brokeandchic.com and @brokeandchic. 
Is your anniversary coming up? Is her birthday right around the corner? No matter why you’re gifting your significant other, our list of awesome subscription services will help you find the perfect present to make your special someone swoon.
Why are subscription services so great? Because she’ll be reminded of your gift for months! Every time the box arrives, she’ll have nothing to do but think of you!
Best of all, these presents can also help you lose your shopping stress, since you won’t have to even set foot into the mall!
1. Craft Coffee

If your girl is a coffee lover, this coffee subscription will put a smile on her face every morning. Craft Coffee tries 50+ different coffees from roasters around the world. After a series of tests, only the top three make it into the box.
She’ll be able to experience coffee on a whole new level by drinking some of the country’s best coffees. If you want to go all out, get a one year subscription for $240. If you’re tight on money, just purchase a month or two at $24.99/month.
Link: http://www.craftcoffee.com/
2. Glossy Box

Do you cringe every time your girl comes home with a bag from Sephora? Then Glossy Box might be the answer to your wallet woes. Each month, your girl will receive 5 luxury travel-sized beauty products in a beautiful pink box. She’ll love the fact she’s getting to try out all these luxury beauty products before she commits to buying them full-size.
If she loves one of them, you’ll know what to get her for Valentines Day! Grab a three month subscription for only $60!
Link: http://www.glossybox.com/
3. Dejamore

Here’s a subscription meant for the both of you — a monthly gift for your relationship. Dejamore creates exciting and romantic experiences for you and your partner.
Every month you’ll receive two boxes. One will say “For Her Eyes Only” and the other “For His Eyes Only”. Inside you could find something cute, sexy or extremely intimate, it’s different every month. If your girl was a Fifty Shade of Grey fan, she’ll love this!
Link: http://dejamor.com/
4. Art in a Box

Is your girl an art lover? If so, she’ll love this subscription service. Art in a Box allows subscribers to receive custom-picked, high-quality works of art worth much more than the subscription cost.
Give your girl a head start on her art collection for only $50/month. Since this is more on the pricey side, just commit to a month or two.
Link: http://artinabox.net/
5. Baublebar

This isn’t a subscription service, but it should be on your radar since all girls love jewelry! Baublebar is the perfect place to buy high quality statement pieces without a high price tag.
If you’re brave enough, you can pick a beautiful piece out yourself. If you know she’d rather pick one out herself, just buy a gift card. $50 will allow her to add a few gorgeous pieces to her collection!
Link: http://baublebar.com/

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Dick Pics: How I Get Women To Ask Me For Them

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This post is from an anonymous guest writer who is a serial dick pic sender.

 
I’m a guy who sends dick pics. Now, you’ve probably already labeled me as a skeezeball in your head, but I want you to reconsider because of this fact:

I’ve probably sent them to a dozen women, and I’ve never gotten a complaint. In fact, I usually get a nude in return.

See, dick pics are more misunderstood than a half-man living in King’s Landing. There is a wide spectrum of phallic photography, and believe it or not they can actually be classy, appreciated, and cause a woman to be aroused.
 
That’s because dick pics are as eclectic as sushi. 
 
There’s gasoline store sushi and there’s Omakase-style sushi. (Hint: Definitely take women on dates involving the latter.)
 
You wouldn’t call sushi a “filthy” food just because most sushi is sold at the grocery or gasoline store, would you? Well, dick pics are similar, and they only get a bad rap because of the grocery-store kind.

The Anatomy of An Unappreciated Pic

 
Let’s start with the unappreciated type of dick pic and why guys send them. To illustrate this, we’ll use a guy named Dick. (Fitting, no?)
 
You see, Dick is a bro. That means that he drinks lots of beer, was in a frat, has a high genetic predisposition to pop his collar and – more relevantly – isn’t very understanding of the female mind. 
 
For example, Dick doesn’t realize that by cat calling a woman on the street, he has a snowball’s chance in hell of hooking up with her. He also doesn’t understand that within a professional setting, complimenting a woman’s her looks, rather than her merit, is incredibly demeaning.
 
Dick is not necessarily a bad guy; he just thinks that women and men think similarly, because Dick has little empathy or emotional intelligence when it comes to women.
 
How does this relate to dick pics?
Dick doesn’t understand the difference between the way that men and women think differently about sexual organs. 
 
See, Dick loves breasts, and with good reason. Breasts are soft, round, smooth, and it’s quite difficult to get a stranger to send you pictures of them. Like most men, getting pictures of a stranger’s breasts would make Dick’s month.
 
It only makes sense to someone like Dick that women view penises the same way that men view breasts. He thinks that pictures of penises will leave women frothing at the gash, but he couldn’t be more wrong.
 
In contrast to breasts, the penis is absolutely disgusting looking. Really. It’s veinous, long, and looks like a sausage and bodybuilder got married and had a baby. A really fat, bald, ugly, baby.
And, unlike with women, the number of men that are willing to “drop trou” to snap a cock selfie on the Internet are about as abundant as cat memes.
The end result? Dick thinks that his penis is seductive, like a worm being cast into a sea of fish. In reality, he’s not even going to get a nibble.

The Anatomy of an Appreciated Dick Pic

 
Now that we understand the mentality behind sending an unappreciated picture of your wang, let’s talk about the other end of the spectrum – the appreciated dick pic.
Here’s the secret.
It’s not the picture of a hard dick that turns women on. It’s the thought of a hard dick that turns women on.
In particular, it’s the thought that the woman was involved in that penis’s arousal that turns them on. Usually, that only happens if there is some sort of pre-existing sexual relationship (i.e. not a complete stranger) between wang’s owner and the woman.
This makes sense. Men can be aroused by purely physical intimacy, and women sometimes require a certain non-physical finesse, such as making sure that they’re comfortable, or that they’ve known the man long enough. (Sometimes this may be for safety concerns.)
If you have a close relationship with a woman, the dick-pic-arousal factors may be even more meta: a woman may get turned on that you’re turned on by sending it. Or that you trust her enough to send her a dick pic.

So, men, do it right.

Trading nudes, even dick pics, can be a respectable, classy behavior; every couple is free to express their sexuality through technology.
Many women actually love dick pics, but you need to make sure these women are respected in the process and understand that they are the key to your arousal. (Protip: You might [always]* want to ask her before you send it.)
So guys, please, serve a woman Omakase sushi, not gasoline sushi.
You might just get dessert in return.
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CMB Men's Series: How to Score a 2nd Date

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CMB Men’s Series is original content dedicated to (confused) men and dating in the city.
Guys typically know within 30 seconds of meeting a girl whether she is compatible and has long term potential. However, just because it’s easy for us to recognize potential, it doesn’t mean that it’s easy to convince the date that we’re worth their time.
Here are 4 essential steps to take on a first date that will help you land a 2nd.
1. Plan the Proper First Date
Choose somewhere you are familiar with, a place where you may know the owners or the best dishes to order. The goal of the first date is to get to know each other, so let her see you in your most comfortable environment.
Less is more!  No need for pre-dinner drinks, dinner, post-dinner drinks, Broadway Show..etc. She’s not getting  a realistic perception of you if you put on a production.  And guess what? If you continue to see each other, she will continue to keep expectations high.
Keep it simple.  82% of women polled in CMB’s survey said that they typically go to a coffee shop or bar on a first date. Dating on a budget in NYC? Click here for our hand picked pocket friendly date ideas that will still impress your lady.
Keep a 3 hour time limit. The success of a date doesn’t depend on duration. Having a time pressure will motivate you to get to know your date within that time period, and may leave her wanting more.
Video courtesy of Ms. Singlefied. Visit her at singlefied.com or @singlefiedyue.
2. Ask Her Questions
Obvious fact of the day: women like to talk.  Studies have shown that women communicate more verbally then men.  So naturally it’s easy to let the conversation become one-sided, but don’t let it turn into an interrogation where she’s peppering you with questions.  Take the lead and engage her with questions that show your genuine interest in who she is, where she comes from, and what her values are.
3. Pick Up the Tab

Splitting the bill, or going ‘Dutch’, might make sense to some.  You hardly know each other, the economy stinks, and she has a job. But sorry guys, if you don’t make an effort to pick up the tab, there may not be a 2nd date. Want proof?
CMB’s survey showed that 87%! of women either feel they should never pay on a first date or secretly hope the guy would pay the full bill. Chivalry, and more importantly the expectation of chivalry, is very much still alive.
4. Forget the 2 day/ 3 day/ 1 week rules

There are numerous rules that guys follow for when to contact the girl after the first date. We’ve heard anywhere from 2 days to a week.  However, CMB’s survey showed that most women would touch base the day after the date if it went well (assuming they would initiate). Therefore, you will not come across as a lonely desperate stalker if you contact her the following day.  Keep in mind that 1 out of 3 women said they would never follow up with a date after the first date. Moral of the story – if you want to see her again, don’t wait until Christmas to tell her.