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Dating Tips for the 21st Century Princess

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The following article is a guest post, courtesy of Catherine Nguyen

Hey Ladies,
Let’s face it, everyone wants to fall in love like Cinderella and her Prince Charming. Or ride away into the sunset on a magic carpet with their Aladdin. Whoever it is, there are definitely some dating tips you can pick up from your childhood princesses to turn your next Bagel into your future Prince Charming.
So, in honor of Pixar’s Monster’s University release this Friday, June 21st, we’re having our own Throwback Thursday (#tbt) blog post dedicated to Disney Princess dating tips! How do these lovely ladies manage their love life in the face of adversity, whether that be in the form of a crazy stepmom or crazed suitor, Jafar? Let’s find out:
Cinderella & Prince Charming
Although Cinderella was a servant for her wicked stepmother & sisters, and had nothing to wear for the upcoming Ball, she was innovative with what she could make do with. By simply sprucing up your date outfit, you can make a strong fashion statement about the type of woman you are. Check out Poshmark, mentioned in our latest post for recent college grads new to SF, the best app for shopping the closets of other women around the world – maybe you’ll find a ball-worthy gown for your next date!
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Cinderella manages to sneak away at the stroke of midnight due to a wardrobe malfunction, but leaves the Prince hanging for more at the expense of her glass slipper. If you want to be more gracefully reminded that you have to leave your date at midnight, check out the Twist app to give yourself (and any crazy stepsisters waiting for you) a reminder of what time you will be arriving home. No more abandoned glass slippers!
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Beauty & the Beast
“Don’t judge a book by its cover” – although quite self-explanatory for the Beast, the same can be applied to Belle. Ladies, don’t be afraid to show that beauty can come (and should come) with brains! In our latest post, 5 Reasons Why Nerds are the New Cool, nerds are not only smart but are more likely to emulate the “work hard, play hard” motto when having fun. So be flirty and sassy with your next (nerdy) Bagel, and maybe it can bring out the man hidden in the beast.

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Belle does this by jokingly throwing snowballs at the Beast, and helps him to loosen up!

Little Mermaid & Prince Eric
“It’s all about that body language” as Ursula said, right before taking away Ariel’s beautiful voice in exchange for human legs. Without it, Ariel had to learn how to capture the attention & affection of Prince Eric, using her body language, eye contact, and genuine interest. Romantic, one-on-one dates, like a boat ride through a lagoon with a singing crab in the background, or better yet a low-key summer festival in your local area (SF, LA, Chicago, & Boston, NY, DC are coming up soon!) are great ways to learn how to master your body language and make your next Bagel apart of your world.
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Top Date Tip for the Spring: Spring = Flower time!

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You are going on your first or second date with your Bagel. You want to get her/him something nice, but you’re hesitant and unsure of what to get. You don’t want to come off too strong or seem like you’re trying too hard.
Well, we’ve found the perfect solution for you, just in time for Spring- Flowers!
Yeah, yeah, I know you’re probably thinking well, that’s nothing new, everyone buys flowers for their date. But, what we found aren’t just any flowers, they’re the perfect flowers to impress your Bagel without overwhelming her/him.
We spoke with two professional florists: Holly Heider, owner of Chapple Flowers, whose designs have been published in Martha Stewart, Washingtonian, and InTouch; Natalie Bowen, owner of Natalie Bowen Designs and very popular designer for the San Francisco Bay Area.
They gave us the inside scoop on what flowers both men and women really love and why.image
Cabbage Rose: 
Holly loves the Cabbage rose! “They’re twice the size of a regular rose and considerably more fragrant.”
These flowers are beautiful, simpler than a regular rose, but still has a great meaning – all in all, perfect for your first date. Holly says that giving a single rose is considered an expression of gratitude & appreciation!
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Ranunculus: 
Natalie’s expert recommendation for a first or second date is the beautiful flower Rannunculus.

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“Ranunculus are beautiful and not risky; most people will love them,” says Natalie. They are known to represent radiant charm.
Both Cabbage Rose and the Ranunculus come in a variety of colors so you can get them in your Bagel’s favorite color.
Now go and impress your Bagel.
Thanks Natalie and Holly for your great tips!
Follow them on twitter and check out some of their beautiful designs @chappleflowers @nataliebdesigns
Content by: @SurprenantK

Mojito Chocolate Chip Cookies

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Mojito Chocolate Chip Cookies
MAKES ABOUT FORTY-SIX 2½-INCH COOKIES
This recipe mash-up combines the best elements of mojitos and chocolate chip cookies in one! The
lime zest adds beautiful green _ecks to an otherwise seemingly average cookie. Serve these at your
next cocktail party for a sweet surprise.
Make-Ahead Tip:
Cookie dough can be made in advance and kept refrigerated for up to 1 week or frozen for
up to 1 month.
COOKIES
2 cups all-purpose _our*
½ teaspoon baking powder
¼ teaspoon salt
¾ cup vegan margarine
1 cup powdered sugar
½ cup brown sugar
4 tablespoons dark rum
2 teaspoons pure peppermint extract
2 tablespoons lime zest (about 2 or 3
limes)
¾ cup semisweet chocolate chips
(dairy-free)
TOPPING (optional)
½ cup granulated sugar Zest of 1 lime
To make the cookies: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line 2 or 3 large baking sheets with parchment
paper or Silpat.
In a medium bowl, whisk together _our, baking powder, and salt.
Using a stand or hand mixer, beat margarine until light and _u_y. Add powdered sugar,
brown sugar, rum, and mint extract, and beat until combined. Mix in the _our mixture
½_cup at a time, then add zest and chocolate chips. Mix until combined.
To make the topping: Combine sugar and lime zest in a small bowl.

Top 6 Ways To Text Your Bagel

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Valentine’s Day Bonus! Ever have a hard time coming up with a good first text? You’re not the only one! Try emulating these smooth-talking Bagels. Six creative first texts that you wish you thought of first.
 
Most Honest
Bagel A: “Whats up! I don’t care you passed I just want one convo. I’m actually in Israel right now, you ever been??”
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Most Creative
Bagel J: “Like Oreo for milk, will you be bagel for my coffee?”
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Most Mistaken
Bagel D: “I missed a comma and for a second thought you liked to eat puppies. “Wow such tactless honestly!” Great smile!”
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Most Suggestive
Bagel S: “Hey! I like red wine and getting sweaty too! Mostly through Bikram Yoga…”
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Most Poetic
Bagel R: “Hey! I’m Ray. My birthday is in May and I like to play. Want to grab a drink some day? I hope you don’t say nay.”
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Most Bold
Bagel J: “This might be a weird question, but did I make out with you at a penthouse party last New Year’s?”
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Orgasms – Not Business As Usual

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Everyone wants great sex, you know this, I know this. (Berkeley college kids know this – as seen in this snappy recent sex article.) But sometimes orgasms are complicated, sometimes they’re MIA and sometimes they’re faked. (Guilty, guilty and guilty). OneTaste, a company dedicated to helping people live healthier, orgasmic lifestyles, knows that very well.
So when I agreed to attend a OneTaste seminar downtown on a rainy Saturday morning, (you know, for the sake of journalism) I was expecting a lot of girl talk between just us ladies. I’d been in the Vagina Monologues in college, I enjoyed sex; bring on the climax chat. I arrived at the holiday-decked Hilton hotel, Starbucks in one hand, pen in the other – I was ready.
Or not.
I was not prepared for the variety at the gathering. There were a few couples, there were some single ladies – but also a large collection of men. A fellow of at least sixty years with cowboy bootssat down next to me in the front row as the seminar began. The two speakers, Marcus and Joann, were well-dressed and smilingly, undeniably at peace. Given the setting, I ventured to think I knew why. Everyone introduced themselves and why they were there, and willingly divulged:

“I want to reintegrate sexuality into my life.”
“I want to be able to get what I want, and give more.”

I had to resist squirming in my seat when it was my turn to share. What? Me talk about my cum history in front of all these dudes? Surprisingly, I opened up: I wanted my next relationship to be more open, I admitted. More honest.
OneTaste was all about that – through Orgasmic Meditation (OM), Joann and Marcus revealed, which was defined as “extended, focused touch” on the woman during an OM. There were plenty of couples at the gathering, but having an Orgasmic Meditation can be strictly business, too, with another OMer found in the OneTaste community, no romance involved. The goal is to get that essential dose of oxytocin (with a helping hand) and gradually start seeing the benefits in all aspects of your life.
Okay, I thought. So, people – strangers – can just get together and have one of these “OM’s” whenever, wherever, without any romantic connotation? But what if I want romance in my orgasms?  There was a demonstration between Marcus and another experienced OMer before the lunch break, and no, I didn’t expect to see someone else’s vagina that afternoon. While part of me was mortified to be intruding on something so seemingly intimate (with fifty other people), another part of me was determined to get over myself. Okay, some dude is going DJ-style on another lady on a table in the middle of the room, but you know what? He seemed to have been doing a crackerjack job.
Needless to say it was an eye opening experience.
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If you’re single and want your next sexual relationship to be more rewarding (by leaps and bounds), I still recommend the seminar. The community is open to anyone and everyone, and signing up is available on their site.
Learn more about OneTaste now – Or read more about the day’s seminar here.
Source reference by Nadia Cho of the Daily Californian and special thanks to Maya Gilbert for inviting us at CMB to get a taste of OneTaste.
image Jessica Barone @chai_haiku is a writer, nerd, health nut, technophile, and the social media head n’ main scribbler for Coffee Meets Bagel. Learn more. 

Holiday Season Dating Tip: Is It Time to Meet The Parents?

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It’s that harrowing time of year again –  family holidays are full speed ahead and that means you and that flame you’ve been blissfully running around the city arm and arm with, not a care in the world, suddenly have to decide – is it time to meet the parents? 
This can be a terrifying notion for both guys and gals, because we all want to be liked by our beau’s family. Buy why is making a good impression on the fam so important in the 21st Century? It seems outdated to some, but meeting family is a big step in a pair’s relationship. If the people who raised your sweetheart from birth – who made them who they are today – have trouble interacting with you, then it may be a sign to reevaluate your relationship.
But hey! Don’t despair! Normally, all it takes is a little extra courtesy and self-awareness to make that trip home to meet his or her parents smooth sailing. And luckily, there’s plenty of easy-to-follow advice on how to make a great first impression. 
BostInno’s great writer Lisa DeCanio advised last week in an article about first-time family meet n’ greets: ”Be yourself – but don’t be yourself. Don’t be a phony, but remember that this is much more important that hanging out with your buddies. First impressions matter.” 
DeCanio goes on to warn of common mistakes you can avoid when meeting the ‘rents, including: 

  • Don’t show up empty-handed. 
  • Avoid any and all mentions of politics. 
  • Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want Grandma to see. 
  • Be nice to the family pets and little cousins. 
  • Do your research – learn about the family. 
  • Stay off your cell. 
  • Don’t swear. 
  • Go easy on the booze. 
So if you and your honey decide it’s time to meet each other’s families this year, just remember: come with a smile, a bottle of fine sparkling cider and your phone on airplane-mode.

Humor and Simplicity: What Guys Have Going for Them

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There is something wholly and totally alluring about a person that can make you laugh. Women are often drawn to men that, while on paper may seem completely ineligible, are irresistible because they are genuinely funny. It’s a trait much more valued in the 21st Century than back in the caveman days.
Instinctually females used to want someone of brute strength first, and intelligence second. But nowadays (perhaps because people are increasingly more in need of breaks from everyday stress) humor is extremely valuable. A guy that can make a gal laugh and feel more carefree is a potential long term, compatible mate.
Humor is just one of the big things guys can offer to make partners happy, Ironshrink writer Shawn T. Smith, Psy.D. explains in a recent article for Psychology Today, “What Women Love About Men.”  His findings are based on an online survey among men & women he conducted as part of the research for his new book, “The Woman’s Guide to How Men Think: Love, Commitment, and the Male Mind” (“What Men Love About Women” is his next post)
But tickling her funny bone isn’t the only thing attractive to the modern woman, Smith goes on to say after surveying several women’s responses. The fact that guys tend to sweat the details less, forgive quicker and forget conflicts faster, all pointing to less complicated emotions, is appealing to many ladies. 
So fellas, don’t worry so much about fancy presents or impressive résumés. You can go the extra mile by making her smile. (And members, make sure to add a touch of humor on your Coffee Meets Bagel profile!)

 

It takes 2 to make it work

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It takes two to make a relationship work.
A simple text saying…
‘Hey, hope you have a good day’- in the morning,
‘Hang in there :)” – when you know your love is having a tough day.
Of course there are times when it’s hard to text or call.
Say you’re driving..getting grilled by your boss…or at a overcrowded place….
But how about when you’re done with the day and are getting ready for bed. Is it that hard to make a short phone call?
If you’re not willing to invest 30 seconds of your time to pick up the phone because you’re “TIRED”? you’re not ready to be in a relationship because that’s nothing but an excuse.
Driven and passionate about work, yet uncommitted  to love-that’s a problem.
Both should be equally treated with respect and attention.
For both men and women-
We’re not saying you to call or text WHILE your working, but to give the other person a heads up that you’re tied up and will call later when you get a chance, or to explain your situation why you couldn’t call in advance.
Isn’t that just simple courtesy?
Love takes work.
It requires you to be considerate and you always have to remind yourself to keep your manners to those who are closer to you- do not take advantage or their love for you.
Don’t expect your lover to always understand you first.
It can’t be a one way thing…
It has to be mutual and BOTH parties have to work together to make a relationship truly work.

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