Save the Date #15 – Why money matters in a relationship | Anna Sale
Today, I’m really honored to have Anna Sale, creator of the hit podcast from WNYC Studios called “Death, Sex & Money,” with me here today. In her podcast as well as her new book, “Let’s Talk About Hard Things,” she dives deeply into subjects that are really hard to talk about, but we need to be talking about more: death, sex, money, family, and identity.
This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship.
SHOW NOTES:
Anna’s book, “Let’s Talk About Hard Things” [1:17]
Why money is a hard thing to talk about [2:15]
How we can change our relationship with money [6:48]
We shouldn’t let money be a barrier to our ability to build an intimate connection [15:18]
When is the right time to raise topics like money? [19:46]
Best dating advice Anna has ever received [36:19]
RESOURCES:
- Anna’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/annasale?lang=en
- Anna’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annasalepics
- Anna’s book, Let’s Talk About Hard Things: https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Hard-Things/dp/1501190245
- Death, Sex & Money podcast: https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney
- Death, Sex & Money on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deathsexmoney/
- Death, Sex & Money on Twitter: https://twitter.com/deathsexmoney
- Death, Sex & Money on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/
QUOTES:
“Dating is not just going out there and seeing if people like you. It’s giving you an opportunity to decide if you like them.”
“In dating, you want to be really understood by someone who is going to stretch you in an interesting way. Someone who’s going to make your life more than it would be without them.”
“In dating, you’re going to meet people with a different family or cultural background around money. You can’t make financial decisions together without talking about money.”
“In a relationship, money functions in two ways. There is the amount of money you have. And then there’s also the ways you feel about money; what your personality is around money.”
“It’s an interesting moment to learn about how you interact when the check comes on a date. It shows how you feel about conventions and traditions and the kind of relationship you want.”
“Money and status are very connected. And whether you feel like you’re measuring up compared to other people, money is a very blunt way of assessing that.”
“It’s important to know what money means to you. What is your vision? You need to be able to communicate that to potential partners to set you up for the kind of life you want to live.”
