Love at first sight! Hmmm!, have you ever experienced it before? Do you even believe it can happen to you? Many people have different notions when it comes to falling in love at first sight. To some, it looks very possible, while to others, it is very ridiculous. Ok, let’s consult the opinions of psychologists to determine whether it is really possible to fall in love at first sight or not.
A study carried out by Stephanie Ortigue, Ph.D of Syracuse University and his colleagues from West Virginia University, and a Switzerland based University Hospital revealed that falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second to happen.
They discovered that love at first sight depends on the psychological state of mind. Some people fall in love at first sight because they believe love exists and are ready to fall in love. It will be difficult for people who do not believe in love to fall in love at first sight. Again, you cannot fall in love at first sight if you are not in a good state of mind or you have loads of problems on your mind. At such time, falling in love will be the last thing on your mind.
It was also discovered that men have the tendency to fall in love at first sight more than women. This is due to physical attractiveness factor. It is possible for a man to fall in love at first sight because the more he looks at a woman for the first time, the more he will be interested in her. However, this is not true for most women. They tend to fall in love while in a relationship. A woman can like a man’s appearance, looks etc, but will hardly fall in love at that instant, but as a relationship develops, she tends to fall in love and is committed to the relationship.
Apart from scientific researches, is it really possible to feel love at first sight or is it “lust” that people experience. For us to discover the truth, we will first of all look at the definition of love and lust.
Love, according to the Wordweb dictionary is “a strong positive emotion of regard and affection”. I love the definition given by Brene Brown, he said love is “an intangible connection between two people that feels exceptionally good”. Love is a good feeling. Most people describes it as having butterflies in your stomach.
Lust on the other hand is defined as “having a craving, appetite, or great desire for”. Love and lust looks similar but they generate different actions and reactions. Most people refer to love at first sight as been lust and not love. Lust can be very deceptive and most people develop it easily thinking they have found utmost chemistry with someone they are meeting for the first time. Most people are drawn to outward appearance and not considering other relevant factors that can make a relationship successful. Those traits cannot be seen outside, they are inbuilt virtues.
People who fall in love at first sight have a preconceived notion of the kind of person they want to date and so when they come into contact with them at first sight, they tend to fall in love.
The true test of love is that it tends to endure, shines and grows with increased interest overtime, unlike lust which have the ability to fade away, shrinks and disappear within a short period of time.
A Greek-American baseball coach said, “if you don’t know what you’re looking for, you ain’t gonna find it, if you don’t know what is love, you probably ain’t gonna find that either”
Therefore, we can safely conclude that those who fall in love at first sight are looking for love and those who don’t may not be searching for it. But, is this true, let’s hear your opinion.
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