According to a research carried out on more than 5000 women by Menshealth.com and Glamour magazine, it was discovered that 26% of women broke up with their boyfriends over too many arguments and conflicts, 18% broke up because there is no chemistry in their relationships, 14% found a better guy, 11% broke up because the men cheated, 11% broke up when the men would not commit, 9% broke up because the men weren’t a husband material, 3% broke up because of lousy sex.
The research showed that a lot of relationship are breaking up each and every day because of different reasons as can be seen above. In this article, we will be taking a look at how we can sustain our relationships and keep it from breaking up. Below are some ways you can do that.
1. Fall in love again
One of the main pillars that keep a relationship strong is love. When there is no love between two people in a dating relationship, breakup is imminent. The question is, how can you keep the fire of love burning? You need to keep falling in love over and over again. Do the things that attracted you to each other at the beginning of the relationship. Do those things that your partner loves seeing you do and you will keep the fire burning. The problem with ladies is that, once they are in a relationship with someone, they assumed there is no need to fight for the man’s love again. That is a very wrong assumption, you need to keep doing what he wants to make him love and respect you the more.
2. Confront your problems.
There is no relationship that is devoid of conflicts. This is because the two parties involved were raised by different parents, environment, ideology etc. Therefore, there is bound to be differing opinions about things when they come together. You must learn to confront and solve all these problems and not overlook them. For example, if you are in a relationship with a man who doesn’t deem it fit to clean his house and just leave everything scattered and you on the other came from a home where everything should be in their proper places. There will be a problem in your relationship, you need to sit down and educate each other about it. Another problem that can ensue is the issue of money, if you come from a family where money is not an issue and you get what you need without lifting a finger and you are in a relationship with a guy who does not have it all, you will need to come down to his level to make it work. Therefore, confronting all the issues in your relationship will clear things up and give you a headway.
3. Enhance each other’s live
Relationship has gone beyond selfish desires. You must learn to look for ways you can add value to the life of your partner. What does he or she likes doing? How can you help her/him do it better without much stress? For example, while I was dating my husband, he discovered that I love to browse the internet and write. He went ahead to buy Internet marketing magazines for me to get more knowledge about the stuff and turn it into a money making business. I started reading and getting ideas on how to start freelance writing online. Since I love writing and browsing, it was easy for me to turn it into a money making venture and that is what I am doing today. I still get to do what I love and make money from it. I don’t see it as a job, but as a hobby and I am able to contribute to the family financially. That is what I am talking about. Look for ways to help your partner develop his/her passion and your relationship will grow stronger and stronger.
4. Respect and Honesty
Being in a relationship with someone does not make you his/her subordinate. It is a mutual thing and you must respect each other’s values, opinions, way of life etc. You can’t talk down on your partner simply because you are a man. That is not a good way to show your manliness. Respect should be reciprocal, respect her and she will respect you. Honesty is another value that you must uphold in your relationship. Don’t cover up things that can be exposed later and cause problems. Let your partner know who you are right from the beginning. There is nothing hidden that will not be revealed, no matter how long it takes.
5. Care for the other person as much as yourself
Sometimes in a relationship, a partner may be too consumed about his/her need that he will forget to look after the other person. For a relationship to triumph, you must care for one another. Look out for each other’s interest and guide it jealously. Don’t be the only focus in the relationship, it takes two people to make a relationship work.
Are you ready to make your relationship work? Then, follow the points highlighted above and your relationship will keep growing stronger and stronger.
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